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female
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anonymous
writes:I have been seeing this guy for about 4 weeks now and all is going well. We met on a dating site and both still have our profiles on there. I think it is too soon to talk about taking them down.However, I haven't logged in for 3 weeks, mostly due to the fact that we are seeing eachother and I am not currently looking for anything else.The problem is that I can see his profile without logging in and have seen that he has logged in today, which has upset me a bit. It is making me feel that he is still looking and not satisfied with me. I now feel slightly insecure.We haven't had the exclusive talk yet as we are taking it quite slowly, but I still feel that he shouldn't be logging in? Is this wrong?I just need some advice on weather I should be weary about this guy? Im starting to really like him and I don't want to keep going, like him more and then get hurt.Can you please advise on what you think I need to do here? Do I try and bring up the exclusive talk? I would appreciate your views and if you have been through anything similar. He is quite reserved with his feelings and I don't want to end up pushing him away if I come accross too keen too soon. Im new to this dating thing so am not really sure on how long you should see eachother before things start getting serious. We have seen eachother 10 times in the last 4 weeks.Thanks
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 November 2008):
Well you say you want to take it slowly and are not yet exclusive, but you are obviously upset about it so yes I think you need to have a talk before you get too deep and get hurt.
Tell him you want to be exclusive and want to both take your profiles down.
At the moment as far as he knows, you could be logging on to your profile every day.
Find out where you stand now before you get hurt.
Good Luck!! xx
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