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*dx1983
writes:Hey guysI have a small question... well more that I need your opinion on something really.Back when I was in school 8 years ago me and this girl had a bit of a thing together, it wasn't that we went out but we flirted a lot and I found out that she did like me but we just never acted on it since we left not long after and I haven't seen her for 8 years.I found her again on a popular networking site so I decided to email her.It turns out she lives about 5 mins from me and has a fiance who is in the army (not in the county at the moment) and also had a 4 year old child.She asked me to go around on tuesday (4th) we had a few drinks and got on really well, I thought she was flirting with me but I can't be sure so this is what i want your opinion on.... she is quite outgoing (she's a dancer in a club) but kept touching my arm or hand but at the time I didn't think anything of it, I said good night and that we should do it again sometime...then on the Thursday (5th) she called me again out of the blue and asked me if I 'knew how to light fireworks' (it was bonfire night) and invited me around again. So as I wasn't doing anything I went round and again we had a good time... I left earlier that night because she was tired looking after her daughter.Yesterday (6th) I got a text asking me if I wanted to go out for a drink before she started work. Unfortunately I was too busy and couldn't go but this is what I want your opinion on...She has quite a few friends from what I can gather and goes out weekends and has plenty of male friends but I'm just wondering why would she want to see me 3 days on the run having only just seen me again in 8 years?? Does that not seem a bit excessive or is she just lonely? I mean it's not like we talked about school that much or even catching.It doesn't bother me at all but I'm intrigued. Hope someone can shed light on this for me.Thanks
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reader, pdx1983 +, writes (7 November 2008):
pdx1983 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply.
Yea i totally understand where your coming from, do you not think that 3 days in a row is a bit odd tho? i mean we havent spoken for 8 years...she couldnt actually remember me very well even though i remember (she has a terrible memory) lol
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 November 2008):
She's a "dancer" so I am guessing that she's quite openly sexual person and possibly naturally flirty.
She is also stuck in the house with a kid all day while her guy is away so she is going to be desperate for some new adult conversation.
I think you need to just say to her that being her friend is just fine but you don't want a guy with access to assault rifles coming after you when he gets back home.
If he is away for a while and rumours get out there to him then it always sounds far far far worse. I'm an army wife and have seen both sides of false rumours.
She thought it was funny because it was just not true. He was saying things were fine but secretly going MENTAL about it. I had to get my hubbie to reassure him because she had no idea he was so upset.
Tread very carefully.
Good Luck!! xx
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