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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,This is not a relationship issue, but I would appreciate any answers.I'm in a situation that I don't know how to handle..When I was younger my dad sexually abused me, that went on for about 3-4years or so, until I finally decided to say something. My dad went to my family (on my mothers side) and told them I was lying. I will never forget that Easter when my Aunt called me a dirty liar. But anyways, It got worse, my brother came to my house one day when my mom wasn't around and told me I was worthless, that I have no family, and that he doesn't even believe me. I spent that Thanksgiving in a hospital bed after attempting to kill myself that day. In which my mom was with my sister, and when she found out, she didn't care. Currently, I have no friends, no family, I'm going into debt at age 19(just from a car payment, gas and food) and I'm screaming to my mom for her to care, and she just won't listen. I'm about to be fired from my job (they're cutting employees due to the current economy status), and I just don't know what to do anymore. Please, anyone, Advice.
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reader, yellow12  +, writes (25 October 2010):
hi, erm... in all honesty i dont no what to say, im soo sorry for you, you family are stupid if they cannot see that your dads lying.
your not alone sweetie.
i was in sort of the same situation too, my dad abused me for two years, and noone would listen, and finally when it came out to his side of the family they started blaming me, syaing it was my fault.
my opinion is, leave them behind, your old enough to start a life of your own, im sure theres someone outside of your family that cares enough to help get you on your feet, leave you family obviously if they dont beleive you then they aint worth it, stay strong, and just know that we beleive you :) xxx
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reader, Moonie35 +, writes (30 December 2008):
hey hon,
Im 35 years of age and have just found out in the past 6 months that my father sexually abused me before the age of 4....my mum found out and stopped it, he beat her from then on(Iblocked it out)....they split up he died when i was 16.....my mum never said a word, i have a brother and sister, ive only found out at 35, my mum was 23 at the time, she went through hell beaten even whilst pregnent with my brother....please.....you have to say....dont let him
im taking prozac because my father touched and my mother protected....he beat her....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Your family is in Denial...I think you should break away from them and talk to a professional as other posters have said. Fade has given some great free places to start. (also check with your local social services offices...call the city hall if you're not sure of the place) You will find these people will BELIEVE you and care about your Well Being. Do not keep in contact with your family until you are strong enough to face them, if you desire to. The counselors will be there for you everyday. You need a SAFE place to start the healing of your heart. Some places give you a room depending on your financial situation. (a place many miles away from your home would be best) You would meet other girls going through this and not feel alone too. Take Care, please update us if you can....caring about you...
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reader, dragonwhisperer17 +, writes (18 December 2008):
 you need to see a couselor or go to a women's crisis center. don't let your life get washed away.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 December 2008):
Your family is causing you harm and no good at the moment so I think you need to cut them out of your life for now.
Your mother has made her choice and maybe one day she will realise what a HUGE mistake she is making but for now she is picking her husband over her child.
Stop trying to make them love you and start afresh.
Since you now have No ties to the area where you live then that means you can apply for a job anywhere from Alaska to Mexico.
Get online and look for something where you won't need a car to commute. Perhaps something with accommodation included.
You can leave the place where you are and be someone completely new. You family and life at the moment is only holding you back. Get online and find your new life.
Good Luck!! xx
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