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writes:I need help people, ive been with my present boyfriend for over a year now, i left my ex of 4 and a half years to be with my present boyfriend, but problem is he isnt the guy i fell in love with, his attitude has totally changed and he says he was only pretending to be a different person so i would like him, but now he never wants to do anything i want, its all about him, he never come out with me or lets me out with friends, i have lost all my friends because of him and i just feel trapped. i do love him but i really cant see a future with him.recently i have been seeing my ex and feel as if i want to get back with him.but i am all my current partner has and if i leave him he will be alone and depressed and i will feel so bad. he has also hid things from me that werent a big deal but it took him over a year to tell me these thigs.WHAT SHOULD I DO? im really unhappy as he just wants to stay in all the time but im a party girl and am trying to enjoy my youth, but cant do it with him.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Break up.
He pretended to be a different person, so you would like him?
Lame!
The truth was going to come out sooner or later...So he basically got you into a relationship under false pretences.
Cut your losses and go have some fun :) x
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reader, sianybarney +, writes (17 December 2008):
If you stay with this guy and give up your party girl ways or youth, you will sure regret it when your older and wont have the time to party anymore.
You clearly dont like to do the same things or have the same things in common.
If you leave him and he ends up depressed and lonely, then maby he will learn his lesson not to be so controlling and uncaring, which will help him in the long run.
Pretending to be someone your not is wrong and by letting you loose all your friends shows he doesnt care about you, only himself. He is selfish.
Risking your own happiness for his is not the way to go. I suggest you leave him, and if your really worried about his depression then suggest he gets some help and be there for him as he does.
Good luck x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 December 2008):
You can't allow him to continue controling your life and making you miserable just because you'll feel guilty.
If he is too useless to go out and find friends of his own then that is not your problem.
He said he lied about who he was to get with you. He can't just change completely and expect you to feel the same.
Split up with him and be a single fun loving party girl for a while. Don't get back with your ex just because he seems like a better option at the moment.
Good Luck!! xx
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