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writes:I guess it is my turn to have a question answered. The following text between my boyfriend and his ex..HIM - you coming home tonight or tomorrow just wondering cuz i don't rememberHER - Tonight! On the road now! Him - Cool drive safe roads suckHER- Bud we GOTTA hang out :-):-) AND I'm serious!HIM - When i have time we willHER- Alright better not forget. I'm excited to catch up :) Later...Her- I'm home!!!!If you are wondering how i got a hold of the texts, please yell at me now for being an untrusting bi^ and h. But i have had so many suspicions about it i couldn't not look at his phone when he forgot it at my house. He also decided to tell me that he was going to be doing late work with his father for a couple days. What am i supposed to get out of that?please someone, i help you out, can someone help me?
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (18 December 2008):
 There could possibly be something going on, especially since it's his ex. But there isn't really anything concrete to prove it in the texts. Those are things friends say to friends. On the other hand, he may have deleted some texts so you couldn't look at them, if you did happen to get ahold of his phone, which you did ;)I would wait and see if he mentions it to you, and if he doesn't, get his phone again lol jk. Seriously though, looking thru his phone was wrong.. and I've done it a few times too. But like one of the previous answers said, you wouldn't like it if he looked thru your phone, even if it didn't contain anything you wouldn't want him to see, you still wouldn't like it. I don't think you can mention anything about what you read, because it's not like the texts said anything that was inappropriate. So if you bring up that you know he is talking to his ex, he's going to say they are just friends, and he's never going to trust you again, so it'd be best to wait it out. And maybe do some more digging lol :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Hun i think you need to sit and talk to your bloke. dont let on that you read his text messages. to be fair there aint a girl/women in the world tha have never read there mans text when they are a bit suspcious. in all fairness we shouldn't as we would not like it. but i think you odne the right thing. dont make out that you dont trust him when you talk to him make him feel like he is in conrol when you really no you are. Ask questions but dont dominate him. If you still dont feel like he is telling the truth the mate follow him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): The fact that you can't help but look at his phone shows that your a bit insecure. I assure you that your bf has probably noticed that. In other words it is more likely that his relationship with his ex is nothing for you to worry about. However the fact that you don't seem to trust him will cause him to lie or hide things that he normally wouldn't because he's worried you'll get mad. Coming from a guy your bf's text messages seem like he isn't really interested in his ex. I know you'd like him to say "stop texting me" or "I have a gf so we can't ever hang out." But most guys won't be like that. Instead he gave a completely vague answer (When I have time we will). That answer indicates that he doesn't really want to hang out but doesn't want to tell her that they can never hang out.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 December 2008):
Sounds like he's meeting with his ex to hang out.
He may not have told you if he knew you would react like this.
It is insensitive of him to stay in contact with her if he knows you have trust issues.
I think you need to sit him down and have a CALM talk about it all.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (18 December 2008):
 If you know where his"ex" lives, on the night he says he is working, drive by her place to see if his car is there. If so, pop in for a surprise visit. I'm sure you'll know what to do if you catch him there.
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