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writes:Hi.i'm 23 and bi.I am really upset with myself right now. I have an amazing girlfriend. she is sexy, funny, tall, active, etc...and we share a fantastic sex life with each other. BUT, i still feel lonely(inside) when i'm with her. i feel a small emotional void inside, that has only previously been filled by a guy i secretly dated. i hate being bisexual. some friends say its best of both worlds, but it just isn't. especially when you can't commit to one person because there is always a certain part of yourself not being fulfilled.now here i am trying to give my all to this relationship, even though i feel emotionally void with her. i care about her in a protective way, mainly because i think i need to protect her from myself.BECAUSE i am almost getting involved with this guy i met through a chick friend recently. we just clicked immediately. since then we have "hooked up"(no "backward" sex involved btw) twice. i am very picky(as in, i have modelled etc and i'm quite goodlooking blah blah - i get MANY advances, but decline them), but he meets the grade. i also don't feel lonely with him.... i think i have emotional attachment issues based on a lack of relationship with my dad when i was a child or something LOL ... this guy is so worth it on one hand, that i would "come out" just to be able to date him properly, but then AGAIN, i know i would cheat on him with a girl,oh well, i am an a-hole, but please can someone give me some advice on being bisexual.i am in hell right now. this feels like all too much for me to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow, well i had an hour long talk with the girlfriend and she was so understanding. she was sad to let me go, but she loves me so we can remain friends. she knew i was being sincere and not just "dropping" her for someone else...i feel a weight off my shoulders. even though i still feel confused sexually(as in a am going to miss our sexual relationship), its my heart that is guiding me at this time.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 December 2008):
Does your girl know you are bi-sexual? I think you have to tell her.
I think your ideal relationship would perhaps be with a bi-sexual girl so you could have the commitment to each other but with fun on the side.
Or with a girl who doesn't mind you going off occasionally with a man.
Talk to your girlfriend and see what she says. She may be able to compromise but she may also not want to be with a man who cannot trust himself.
It is a risk but I think you have to be open with her.
Perhaps being single so you can date men and women with committing to anyone is the answer for now.
Good Luck!! xx
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