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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm trying to get over my ex-gf by ignoring her to the best of my abilities (she knows that I am trying to ignore her, too). She is a textaholic and when we were dating she would literally give me updates of what she was doing several times an hour. (She wrote me 500 texts in 3 days at one point). Since she broke up with me, her texts haven't been nearly as regular, but why even text me at all with these meaningless updates. I don't really care that she just bought some puma shoes and a coach bag on sale. Furthermore, shouldn't the one she should be telling this stuff to be her current boyfriend?Do I even respond? I've tried to remain civil during all this despite the fact that I am heartbroken. Until now, I would normally have responded but not worded anything to illicit a response and thus hope to end the text thread. What I would really like to say is that I'm flattered that you thought to tell me something, but I'm not your bf anymore and I don't need/care to know everything about your life. Is there a delicate way of saying that without pissing her off. I probably shouldn't care if I piss her off, but unfortunately, I'm a reasonably compassionate person even with the woman who broke my heart.Could it be that she is trying to see if I'll respond since she knows I'm ignoring her? But then again, would it not seem desperate on her part to continually initiate texting because I never do?
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reader, confused659 +, writes (24 December 2008):
Ignoring someone will just build their false hopes. If you really want her to stop texting you, be honest with her. It will be hard for her to hear it, but tell her to stop, the relationship is done. It will help her in more ways than you know, in the long run. It will solidify the end.
It is better to end it completely, than to keep dragging it out! I promise. Hope this helps.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 December 2008):
Sounds like she's just one of these nut jobs who text everyone about everything.
Just keep ignoring her and let her waste her credit.
She'll get the message eventually. You have said you'd like no contact so she's the one in the wrong here.
Good Luck!! xx
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