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writes:Basically me and my boyfriend always have arguements about facebook because he thinks I have loads of 'random' guys on their which i don't, they are all people I know from work or school. but he got really annoyed yesterday just because i accepted a friend request from a boy i used to know from primary school (i'm 18 now)because he says 'why did u accept him, u don't even talk to him anymore'. i kept telling him it's just facebook, it's not a big deal. he told me that either i delete most of the guys on my facebook or he's going to leave me which i think is ridiculous. he also wants me to delete some pictures i put on there from when i did a professional photoshoot, which are not in any way slutty (but he seems to think so)I told him straight that i'm not deleting anyone or the photos and he has to accept it but i don't want to lose him over this petty argument. i like using facebook and i don't see the problem with it but it causes so many argements, i don't know what to do.Also he's quite traditional and he says that if he doesn't like it than i should do what he says to make him happy which is obviously totally sexist!
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reader, Sofiieee +, writes (14 May 2009):
Omg ... in the same situation im 16 and i actully believe that it is jelousy of other men speaking to us but its fine for them to talk to girls .. im reaally sneaky and found out my bf's password and saw that he called an 'old school mate' 'still looking pretty i see' i just think this is abit exstream to be paranoid about me all the time !! boys are absolute ***k*rs :) xx
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reader, Gem86 +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Hey, This kind of behaviour would worry me personally. Guys like this are insanely jealous, and will convince you that you're doing something wrong. I dont think having old school/work friends on facebook is wrong in anyway. Everyone does it, its just a nice way to stay in contact!
I think this could escalate, like him asking you to take down these photos of you looking good. He's jealous of other men looking at you.
I know there maybe people who will disagree with me, but from personal experience, it will only get worse. My ex went mental that I had photos of a friend who was male! He got worse and worse, I couldnt even talk to another bloke without him going mad, yet he could still text his ex girlfriend whenever he wanted!!
So, what to do? If he really is saying to you that if u dont delete old school friends from your facebook or you're finished, then I say lucky escape for you! You dont want to be in a relationship like this, he will be very controlling. You dont say how long you have been together, but believe me from personal experience, it will get worse.
I hope it works out ok, good luck hun :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 December 2008):
Any guy who says "do what I say or I'll leave you." is really not a good guy to be with.
First it's these photos and your male facebook friends that he is too insecure to cope with. What next?
Will he start objecting to you going out with your friends in case they lead you astray?
This guy is too much of a child to cope with you being in touch with other men on facebook. He is not boyfriend material hun. Tell him it's your life and a free country and you will speak to who ever you want.
If he leaves then he's done you a favour.
Good Luck!! xx
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