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writes:I have this ex "boyfriend" or whatever he was. We had a casual relationship for five months but I told him I couldn't handle it anymore. So he asked me out but after a week,he said doesn't want a girlfriend right now because of his grades (he's not very smart and might get kicked out) He insisted that we still remain friends and kept telling me how awesome I am and that he doesn't want to lose me. We've hung out once since our break up and when he came over, he started acting like my boyfriend again, cuddling with me and kissing me on the cheek. I asked him what that meant and he said that he wasn't making a move on me, he was showing how much he missed me. He made plans for us to go on a date but called me two weeks later and I found out he partied that same weekend. That finally did it for me. I thought, that was his last chance and he blew it and he probably only came over to try to get laid even though I would NEVER sleep with him again. He texted me to "hang out" again but I said Im busy. He called me twice since then but I didn't pick up. We are not in school right now and live five hours apart so its not like we can "hang out" right now so why is he still calling me? I thought the message that I didn't want to talk to him was pretty clear. I don't want to talk to him on the phone because I know I will end up crying and I don't want him to know Im vulnerable. Help please
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 December 2008):
He's still calling because you have not made yourself clear enough.
You've just ignored him and he doesn't know if that just means you are angry, or since he is happy to ignore you for a couple of weeks then he may not think it means anything at all.
Text him and tell him to stop calling you.
He's only tried twice so he's hardly stalking you. He'll get the message eventually.
Stay strong.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): maybe hes calling because he really does like you and since your ignoring him he realizes that he doesnt want to loose you. he obviously knows he can't get any while you guys are five hours apart so he could possibly have true feelings fo you. He just sounds immature and if you want to be with him you'll have to let him know what needs to be improved to make the relationship work. Men are pretty stupid and arent mind readers so youll have to tell him exactly how you feel. It seems like you have feelings for him still so maybe there is a chance for you two . good luck.
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