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writes:Me and my girlfriend had sex and got caught by her parents that night and for the first few weeks her parents were mad at us but still wanted us to be together. but as time went on they completely have changed there minds and now wont let us talk or see eachother at all. and to top that off she told me the other day that her parents are going to make us break up and moving her schools second semester. they are moving houses taking her phone and taking her away. so we both decided that if things dont get any better in the next couple weeks we are going to run away. but like is it really worth it what should i do i mean is it really worth giving up everything? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all of u some one of ur answers were great help other were very annoying but thanks to all of u.
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reader, SmithiieXoxO  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 im 14 and would never do anything like that. id just be too scared to be honest. i really reccomend not running away because just think of all the dangers, rape, protitution for money for food, and even murder. the lady above is absolutely right. you would almost definitley end up dead, and teenagers are being given a rubbish enough reputation as it is without more being killed for running away or being out late and stupid issues that we get blamed for. i think it is sweet that you love each other so much that you are even considering to leave your life, family, friends behind for each other. this will sound harsh but there is always plenty more fish in the sea. thats what my mum tells me when im dumped lol. seriously though dont run away because it is far too dangerous for kids our age to be living on our own plus we would get so bored no playstation, wii, ghds (staightners) :O just to end it on a lighter note and not talking about dieing.i hope you decide not to run away and to apologize to the parents. running away would only worsen your situation. please dont do it. i hope you make the right decision. good luck x xx
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reader, KIRSTYLOU19 +, writes (24 August 2009):
i was just saying to anouther person do it... me and my partner had and still to this day but not as often have problems.. we have been together for 3 years and have a beutifull 14 week old son together but our relationship was deemed unfit from the start from both of our familys i ended up getting kicked out of my family home for wanting to be with him..and him also.. i was 16 and he was 18 when we met .. we had physical threats and attacks made on us because of us being togther but no one could see we were happy.. we ran away.. we moved all over the country it was hard but if u got a good relationship ull stick together...he is a turkish man..raised in this country so just as westernised as we are.. but people saw colour and race as a problem.. as i said we are now settled in our own place have been since december.. first time in the whole of our relationship we can finally be together without any hassle.. my family now love him.. it took them time but they saw i wasnt going to let him go and that i was happy and being treated right..he is now part of the family.. his family still have problems but i have tried and will continue to try and maybe one day they will see what my parents saw but doont ever let nothing or no one destroy the love you have for someone..follow your heart and let fate lead the way.. i did and now things are great takes a while and a lot of strength but if you REALLY want to then u will find a way x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): if you truly love her then you really should do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Well it depends where you go? where do u intend to run away to? Be responsible, do you have a job? can u afford it? If you have an adult in the family who you could move in with temporarily on either sides of the family then you could stand your ground to both of your parents and move in with them. Although your parents are you parents and you don't want it to go to that. Talk to them. Make arrangements with the adult and sit with your parents and tell them this is what you are intending to do. Life will be very tough for you then. Moving in with your girlfriend is a very very big step. you will loose a fraction of the love you have for one another and it wont be as exciting because you see eachother ALL the time. Although it can also bring your relationship closer, it can show an ugly side of you both as well. I've seen relationships lasting 5 years, then they decide to move in and then it all comes crashing down with arguments all the time and break ups. thats the life of so many of my friends and colleagues, i'm not taking chances just yet. Your parents will know this. It is likely they will tell you to get on with it and you will come crawling back to them in a months time because of the stress of living, money and then your failing relationship fallen on hard times. Be prepared for that. It's not a good idea to actually go through with your plan, but a possibility to bluff it, but be prepared for the worst.
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (23 August 2009):
 I feel like i really understand where ur coming from. Almost a year ago i tried running away with my girlfriend. We had talked about it but one night we randomly decided to do it. It was a stupid idea because we didnt have anything planned. We got caught the same night and i havnt seen her since. Anyway looking back i think it was the biggest mistake of my life. I only regret it because unlike your relationship we where fine before we ran away. Let me just say that if your going to do it make sure you can get as much money as possible saved up, dont tell anyone that you dont trust, and make sure you have someone to drive you. Now im a teenager too and i have a voice in the back of my head thats telling me that you shouldnt because it would get you in a lot of trouble and you would probably never see her again. But as a teenager it is incredibly easy to ignore that voice.I guess what im trying to say is that its not woth it because it wont work unless you put a lot of thought into it and you have enough money and a plan to get as far away from your family and friends as possible. The close to your house you are the more likely you are to get caught. Im really just telling you this because when the moment comes that you decide to run away, none of the advice you hear from any of us is going to matter. Your feeling for her will take over and you probably wont say no.So in the event that you do run away, just make sure that you are prepared to do what needs to be done, or be prepared to slip up and get caught and never see her again. Her parents arent going to realize how much you two love eachother and let you continue seeing eachother. They're going to get her as far away from her as possible as soon as they can. So in the end its up to you. Good luck.~SFLie. Chris
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 August 2009):
It'll be worth it if you want to get your names in the paper.Kids who do this ALWAYS get caught and made out to be Stupid little children in the papers.It will make things a hundred times worse if you run away. Your family will ground your forever. Her parents will make you out to be some kind of pervert rapist who took their little girl away.If you ever want to have a life, then please don't do this. If your love really is all that you think, then you'll be able to wait and when you are old enough, hook up again with no problems.Good Luck!! xx
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