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*ictoriaJK
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have been planning our future together and everything has been great. Mostly we've been able to work through anything fairly easily. During the beginning of our relationship I found out he smoked. I told him that I was not going to tell him what to do but I wasn't happy about him smoking. He told me he would quit and for the past year he has. Then a couple weeks ago I found out that he was smoking at a bar, when he gets so smashed that he asks me for a lighter and accuses me of knowing that he was smoking when I looked shocked. We worked through all that and he promised me that he would not get that drunk again and he wouldn't smoke anymore. I thought it was all good.Then today we went out and I was curious so I asked him why people smoke. He tells me a bunch of stuff, and then says that he only has a cigarette after he's been drinking and it's more of a social thing. He also tells me that he doesn't consider it smoking then. I have no clue as to what I should do. I love him so much, and I don't want to have to tell him that i don't want him smoking because that seems like I'm trying to force him to do what I want which doesn't seem fair to him. I love him so much and I don't know what I should do. Please help!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 August 2009):
I had this problem. My husband did want to quit but also enjoyed smoking / was massively addicted.
So I told him he can do what he likes but since he stinks when he smokes he can't come near me.
So he has the option: Smoke OR kiss your face off and get lots of amazing sex.
If he has a fag then he doesn't get you for a day or two.
Either that or just tell him you don't want to be with a smoker and walk out. Tell him to give you a call when he is smoke free.
Get it sorted now or move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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