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writes:I'm a 16 year old girl and haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm not particularly worried about that...but I'm just a little confused at the moment.I've always thought that people should go out to build a steady and loving relationship rather than just for a bit of fun...but I'm wondering if that's right now. Would it be ok to go out with someone if you are attracted to them but don't necessarily love them and even if you think there could be someone out there who is better for you? I think I'll wait to marry before having sex and I am going to make sure my first kiss is with someone really special aswell but it is unlikely that my first kiss and first boyfriend will end up being 'the one'.I guess what I'm asking is: is it ok to go out with someone - who you may really like - even when you think that they're probably not 'the one' for you? Reply to this Question
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reader, xAx  +, writes (14 August 2009):
 Yes, totally alright. You might found out that you eventually do fall in love with that person, you never know. It takes many years to fully and truely know someone. So yeah, go ahead! Have fun! But course, don't lead on people, don't say i love you if you don't mean it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I am 37. Why are all the young girls at this age hooking up with guys? Look, you don't want a reputation. You want to meet lots of people as friends to grow and learn about others. The right man is the one who also provides in a relationship. He is going some-where. He has shown some sort of achievement. In the future the one you love dearly will be your kids, and is he the right one to help emotionally, financially etc for you and your child. And the same for you. You need fitness, a habitual healthy lifestyle, a good paying job. Why not hook up with people going places in the same clubs and progressing along with you? If he is a friend where you both support each other through studying, as long as this is not a distraction, or to jog together, there maybe some longterm intent of him going some-where with you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 August 2009):
If we all married the first boyfriend we had... well the suicide and divorce rate would be through the roof.
Of course you shouldn't be looking to find your soulmate at 16.
Go out with a boy who you like and yes, you may well fall in love with him, but some love stays strong while most fades after a MAXIMUM of 2 or 3 years.
Just because you think you have fallen for him doesn't mean it's going to last for ever.
If you go into a relationship expecting it to lead to marriage then you are going to stick around and keep trying when you should have dumped him.
Go out, learn about boys and relationships and when "the one" comes along you will be strong and independent and know that he really is special rather than just a crush.
Good Luck!! xx
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