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writes:I'm 23, and was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months until I broke up with her of my own volition 4 weeks ago.In the past few weeks I've been looking at gay porn(like Mr. Gay UK, Gay Times) and then I feel dirty afterwards, as I'm normally attracted to girls.I hate the fact I've looked at these sites, and it makes me feel dirty, yet for some reason I keep going back to them. It's not an addiction, as the pornography is in a physical format - i.e. a magazine, not online.This cycle of buying it, masturbating over it, then feeling down, happens frequently and I've no idea why.I worry I may be gay or bisexual because of this and if I am I do not want to be!This is confusing the hell out of me and I don't know where to go yet I also want a girlfriend again at the moment so what do I do?Confused
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reader, gayhelper31  +, writes (25 October 2009):
HI! Well this is a tough questions. Sexuality is not as simple as the labels are. It is not a simple classification as gay, bi, or straight. There are many in between. Google Kinsey scale. The fact that you feel bad about it is not helping. You should embrace your sexuality. Avoiding, denying, and attempting to change your sexually is proven to psychologically affect people in a negative way. It can cause suicidal thoughts if provoked enough. I would know. I am gay and went through a tough denial period including a couple suicide attempt. I lost my virginity to a woman in the process. I think you should try to have a relationship with a man.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (23 September 2009):
mate, at the end of the day. If you like it, you like it. Does the thought of having a boyfriend turn you on or off? Do you feel the same with straight porn? Seems to me you need to accept yourself and then you will feel much better. If you like masturbating over gay and straight porn but like women and want a girlfriend then go for it. You never know she might like watching gay porn. If you decide you might be gay then you need to deal with it. It will only come back and bite you in the end. Hope it goes well for you anyway
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reader, obsticalfree +, writes (27 August 2009):
I think you are just lonely and it doesn't mean that you are gay. Maybe a little horny and looking at different things but I wouldn't feel dirty about it. If you know you are into girls why worry if you find men together a turn on as long as you don't act upon it. I agree with the previous poster that it isn't something to freak out about but I do think that if these fantasies are keeping you away from reality i.e. seeking another gf as you said than I would put it away and go out!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 August 2009):
Sexuality is not a case of only having 3 options. You are not 100% into men / 100% into women / 50% of each.
Everyone is different.
If you a 99.9% into women, but like men 0.1% then that is fine. It doesn't mean you have to come out to your parents and start dancing to the YMCA.
Basically, all you need to know is that you are you. What turns you on is your business, and since getting turned on is fun, you should explore it and have a think about it. It's never something to worry about.
Just enjoy the ride.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Look, I think you know deep down that if you are turned on by men then that means that at the least you are Bi.I would say get some help to talk about it, here isnt really the place.But good luck with it.
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