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writes:hi aunty,I got married for 6 months now..2 nights back,we decided for bondage sex,so my wife tied me down to the bed with handcuffs..intially she teased me and kissed..once I was tied up properly and at her mercy..she slapped me..and then yelled at me,she told me a list of things I didn't do properly and the mistakes I did,like forgot to pick her mom from the airport..she lectured for about 2 hours and then tapped my mouth and watched tv all night,only in the morning she left the keys of the cuff on my chest and left..I am angry,what should I do..revengue?? Reply to this Question
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reader, carefree  +, writes (22 November 2010):
Omg, that is so mean. I think there were other ways of getting her point across. She left you tied up all night. That's pure brutal. Not to mention you've only been married for 6 month. Personally, I would get out of that relationship as fast as I could. Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Your wife is an abusive psycho. You're lucky you're not dead.
Get a lawyer, then get a divorce.
Next time, don't get married until you're *sure* you've found the right non-psycho woman.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (20 August 2009):
 You married the perfect dominatrix. Pure humiliation and no sex. You got what you bargained for.
As for leaving mom at the airport? Hm. That was probably a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): sounds like she read up on male behavior modifiaction and orgasm denial dominatrix style...i have researched the matter and if i was a follower i may have tried something similar to this with my man..cuz somehow u have to let the man know what hes done wrong while being denied the orgasm..i have just resorted to tickling the male g spot with out putting my finger in the anus and milking which is less abrasive than what she tried
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Your wife needs help,no woman in the right mind would do such a thing over petty little things
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): I'm giving the advice that cousolers give to abused women, make a plan and execute it. Figure out your finanaces, cut the stings and get out of there... leave her 1/2 the cash, and pay off all your joint bills (and your bills) and get out. Be fair, but save yourself-... I'd be pissed off too.
Guess you're lucky she didn't invite her mother over to partake in the session...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): At first I had to laugh, your wife has a sense of humor, but I would like to know what all you did to get her so riled up that she had to handcuff you to the bed to get all of her anger out.
Seriously though, her behavior was abusive towards you, but maybe you are a mysoginistic pig, I don't know you, even so, you probably did not deserve that.
I would forget about revenge, that isn't going to solve anything. I would not go for bondage sex again with her, and I would try to talk to her about communicating better with you when she is upset, like telling you right when it happens if she is mad at something you did or didn't do.
If the abuse continues or worsens, then the best thing to do would be to get out of the marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): did you know she was psycho when you married her? wouldn't want to see her angry believe me.
don't get revenge, maybe just even. handcuff her and tell her all that you don't like about her. for starters that he slapping you and lecturing you for 2 hours is a no no. watch tv but don't forget after a while to uncuff her. then she will be really mad. also please hide the knives when you both are fighting.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (16 August 2009):
 She should not have done that. You don't use sexual actions and/or abuse to talk about relationship problems. Why? Because they don't get solved that way.
You really need to discuss this with your wife & let her know that if she has complaints or anything that she wants to talk about, she needs to be an adult & talk to you about it in a civil manner.
What she did was dead wrong! There is a way to do everything & that clearly wasn't a good one. And if it was the other way around she would not like it at all! You should treat people how you want them to treat you: even in a marriage!
Deal with this before you have bigger & more dangerous issues with your wife!
Good luck:)
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reader, angelluvr +, writes (16 August 2009):
I think you should get on her good side 4 a while then tie her up and tease her 4 a while. Tickle her ass with a feather,caress her nipples,get her all worked up and then don't finish the deed. Then tell her "paybacks are a bitch aren't they" then run as fast as you can and don't look back and find you another LADY that is nice and sweet to you!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 That's pretty twisted. This is not a woman I'd get "revenge" from. She does not fight fair. She went to extremes just to make you hear her complaints. Couldn't she have just talked about it over dinner or something? I see marital counseling in your future.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 August 2009):
 First, I'd think twice about doing anything with her that includes any type of restraint. That is mean, although the idea for the way you were lectured is fairly humorous but damn, if I were naked that last person I'd want to be talking about is my mother in law.
Sex and communicating issues should be separate events. Now, you're looking at revenge, but I don't think she'll be too willing if you pull out the cuffs and request you get your turn. Forgetting to pick up her mom was not the best, but shouldn't be cause for her doing this to you. I'd talk to her nad express how this was wrong. If it were me, I'd also express how attempting any sort of bondage sex would not longer be an option, to assure something like this doesn't happen again.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 August 2009):
Even if you did deserve this I would still consider this abuse.
If I were you, I would walk out on her. Tell her you will not be physically attacked by her in this way.
See if she is willing to talk through problems after a few days to calm down and think about her actions.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Mr. Adviser +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Honestly, what I would do is go up to her and say, "if I'm so freakin bad then I'll just leave your life for good. I don't deserve to be treated like that. Have fun living your life alone, btch." Then proceed to walk out and go to a hotel for a night. Make her cry for the pain she put you through. You have every right to be angry. That is abuse. And I wouldn't go back to her until she calls up and asks for forgiveness. I hope you learn from this mistake. Handcuffs are a bad idea. You definitely need to teach her a lesson
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): OMG... that's outrageous! Ummm either your wife didn't understand the rules or she has major issues! Were you pushing for this and she didn't want to do it so she finally decided to "teach you a lesson" so you'd never ask again? Even if that's the case this is severely disfunctional. That's just so cruel and wrong on so many levels. Revenge? No dude. You need to leave and consider filing for divorce. If you're wife can't communicate the things she's unhappy about in a more productive healthy way you don't want to stay in that house.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (16 August 2009):
 have you considered sectioning your wife? quite seriously.... she is either mentally unstable or you have really REALLY not been a good husband to her. either way tho she has completely abused your trust and taken advantage of the situation and you. i would not remain in such a marriage. as much as i giggled (i apologize) at the thought of revenge (im evil hehe) two wrongs do not make a rite! i sincerely wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose to do about your wife. :s
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (16 August 2009):
 This is why you shouldnt have women all over our money and beavers and moose. im guessing that cold canadian air is getting to you my northern brother because one your wife is smarter then you shes allready prepared for your revenge. chalk this up to a lesson learn dont try to get your wife to do some kind of freaky sex ritual stop being a perv.
I just make sure you dont screw up in the future and never let your wife handcuff you nextime it could be ground glass in your beer and salad. just let it go my friend focus on how to get a good luvvin session in over revenge youll thank your self youll thank me when your not gurgling up blood and the ground shards of your molson bottles.
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