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writes:hi, im married to 48 year old man. we just got married just this summer. we have a very strong affection and love to each other as well as very active sex life. lately, i woke in the middle of the night that he is masterbating and he do it again in the morning. yet we still having sex 2 to 3 times a week and there's no problem. when i talked to him about it, he says he will try to stop. i know its normal of a man to masterbation, but few weeks later i thought he stop doing it, the sometimes in the night i woke up he's not at my side and found out that he's doing it in the living room and he dont admit it that he still doing it. what should i do? why he's denying to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): to the readers who give answer and advice to my situation i like to express my deepest thanks. it helps me alot! thank you guys and to dear cupid. more power to all of you!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 October 2008):
Maybe because he's embarassed?!!
As long as your sex life isn't suffering then what is the problem?
Why do you need him to admit and tell you when he does it?
Leave him to it but tell him to wake you up some times too so you can join in!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): "when i talked to him about it, he says he will try to stop".
The obvious question is, why did you try and make him stop? If you're getting enough, for goodness sake, surely it can't hurt to let him indulge in his little habit.
If, on the other hand, you wanted it 6 or 7 times a week and he wasn't giving it to you, you might have some reason to complain. Then I would suggest you try and find ways of turning him on more. But since that's not the case, I don't know why you've tried to fix something that wasn't broken. In fact, you might have broken something that was perfectly all right.
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reader, benefattore  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 He's obviously embarrassed of the fact he's married and needs maturbation. Maybe he's used to more sex than just 2 or 3 times a week. Men build up a lot of sexual stress, trust me. Some people also do it because deep down they're not getting everything they want out of sex (like oral sex, certain positions, etc.) or he has a very old habbit that just won't die.
Talk to him about his needs and how you can help him desire only you. Maybe both of you should start hitting up the gym and get "sexier" for each other - that could be one of the reasons he is looking at porn stars.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): I think if you are not unhappy with your sex life you should not make a big issue of this. By making an issue of it, you are making him feel guilty and he will start doing it more and more secretive. Why is it bothering you? Turn around and sleep, allow him the personal space to enjoy himself without feeling guilty.
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