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writes:I have an 18-year-old girlfriend (I'm 17) who lives in England, and I live in Nevada. I love her with all my heart; I truly know I'm in love with her and I can honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with her. The problem is, even though I could go to college near to her and be with her, I don't know if I want to. She was my first girlfriend I really want to experience other girls in high school and college. We do have an open relationship, and I have a girlfriend at home that she knows about, but it's not the same because we talk every day. I constantly think about her even when I'm with my gf from home. I want to go to college and have lots of girls and do all that fun stuff but I don't think I can if I'm so attached to someone, even if we were both morally okay with it. My options are to break it off with her, which I have tried unsuccessfully; stay with her, which will lead to me not living my life fully; or to set some boundaries and stay friends, which I don't think she or I could do without getting back together. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, francy  +, writes (29 October 2008):
My dearest friend, love is something that you cannot change, involving yourself in more than one relationship will just be a headache, you better have one for the sake of your happiness. Speaking of not sure if she is the woman of your life, I suggest you follow what your heart is telling you, how can you be with someone you do not want to make life with? If you think she is not the one you want and need let go of her once and for all. Do not waste time, plan for the future while you are young, that's what I had for you today ................... good luck
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reader, indicannabisativa +, writes (21 October 2008):
indicannabisativa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you francy, that helped. but right now i'm not sure if i want to spend the rest of my life with her. does that mean i could change my mind later? I don't wanna have a bunch of promiscuous sex necessarily, i just want a few other relationships to see what they're like.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 October 2008):
Well since you are in an open relationship and are leading another girl on at home what difference will there be when you hurt girls at college and sleep with them either?
Do what you like hun, you seem to want everything and you can't have it without someone getting hurt.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, francy +, writes (21 October 2008):
hi sweetheart. reading your question brought some bad ideas on my mind and to answer it might hurt me a lot, never-the less i will try to give you what i can. well, i perfectly understand your question and your problem, but first i do have a question for you, how many girls do you want to have in your life? and if you love her with your whole heart why do you want to hang out with some other girls? i suggest you stay with this girl if you know she is the woman you want to be with for your whole life,or maybe if you are not sure about your feelings do not waste her time and your time too, leave her in peace and find some one you can feel comfortable and satisfied with ............ gud luck hope you make the right decision for the two of you.
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