A
female
age
36-40,
*oomedAngel
writes:I have started a new job with a great position, I think my boss is a wonderful person he has an amazing charisma, strong and powerful but he is 26 years older than I am married with kids:( I'm so confused I admit I like him, I know it is totally wrong but I can't help it. I'm trying to hold back my feelings and not show my emotions or anything but he keeps telling me sweet things, giving me complements,and sending me nice messages ( he also tried to kiss me).I don't wanna quit my job for a reason like this and in the same time I don't want my boss to hate me. I don't know what to do, it is scary that I'm attracted to a man who's as old as my dad and I'm afraid things would go wrong:( I'm so confused, and I can't tell anyone about it.
View related questions:
my boss Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 October 2008):
You sound as though you don't want him to stop.. but you say you do.
If you want him to carry on then let him continue, and if you don't then dress more conservatively and do not flirt of let him get you into a situation where he can make a move. Do not respond to his compliaments.
I don't think he is going to hate you if you turn him down, this will not be about feelings for him, just the thrill of the chase. Why not talk to the other girls in the office about his previous behaviour and how previous girls dealt with him?
Good Luck!! xx
A
female
reader, DoomedAngel +, writes (22 October 2008):
DoomedAngel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know this is all wrong, how can I make him stop without turning all this he has for me into hatred?
it's normal for a girl to like someone with a personality like that especially if he keeps showering her with beautiful words, I'm not stupid I know he is trying to get something from me, and when he kissed me I was trying to let him not to.
I'm not confused cos i want this thing to work out I'm confused cos i know what's right and what's wrong, and I want him to stop what he's doing without making him hate me.
I love my work I don't want to quit.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Strangely enough, I'm occasionally attracted to girls half my age. But I don't do anything about it because I know it'll eventually end in misery for me if the young girl should also find me attractive and my other half found out I'd been doing naughties.
Yeah, I know it's only a pipe dream, but there you go. Of course, I would be very flattered, being old, bald and with a belly bigger than is good for me - but it's all bought and paid for.
You're right to be worried that things might go wrong. Except there's no 'might' about it. It's a dead cert!
...............................
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 October 2008):
If you want to have an office affair then think hard about 2 things:
1: He's married. You will only ever be his bit on the side. You'll be a younger girl he goes to for fun and then goes back to his wife at night.
2: When it ends or a younger prettier secretary starts work then he may sack you or make your life miserable til you quit.
If you want to do this then go in knowing it will only be for fun and you will be seriously hurting his wife and risk being labeled as a whore for doing so.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
|
