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writes:I'm a seventeen year old with an autistic boyfriend. We've been dating for nine months and I've fallen head over heels, there's just one problem. Lately I've been having a hard time relating to him. He hasn't ever really talked about being autstic and now he's been trying to explain what it's like. He's started saying that he's been acting all along and if he stops he'll lose me. He also tries to get through to me what it's like to be emotionless, detached from everything that's ever happened to him. He doesn't cry, very rarely shouts and when he's angry or upset he tends to pull into himself and ends up frustrated when I worry. I know deep down that I love him and I wish there was something I could do to reassure him he's not going to lose me, not ever.Please does anyone have advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 October 2008):
It'll be hard to convince him since he does not understand love or emotion. He can switch it off and so has no concept of how you can't.
You just have to continue being there and prove you aren't leaving with actions not words.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsychicDove  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Wow, I love true lovers! :D
Hi Honey,
Ummm, I think open displays of affection could help him 'see' you are there? Simple and cosy gestures. Gifts, surprises, cards, pecks on forehead, a teddy bear like treatment would warm his heart.
Assure him that he does not have to put up artificial behaviour, just tell him you live in his heart and kiss his heart. The more sentimental dialogues, the more comfortable he will feel.
Simple things like, when he is talking to you and the phone rings, you ignore the dumb phone once in a while and show him he is most important than ANYTHING else. I think cuddling that child within him will bring out his best and who knows, he might develop deeper emotions!
Take care okay?
~PsychicDove
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