How can I be better eye candy without looking tarty?
Q. I really don't think I am girlfriend material! Or I just repell boys I have no idea But I just don't attract anyone and if I fancy someone it just never works out Can I have some tips on how to be better eye candy without looking tarty? What do...
A. 28 January 2013: Being eye candy might win you a user for about 5 minutes. Being a confident, interesting, nice person with a smile might win you a decen tguy who will be good to you and like you for yourself. ... (read in full...)
How can I be better eye candy without looking tarty?
Q. I really don't think I am girlfriend material! Or I just repell boys I have no idea But I just don't attract anyone and if I fancy someone it just never works out Can I have some tips on how to be better eye candy without looking tarty? What do...
A. 28 January 2013: Forget about being "eye candy". If you want boys to like you be likeable. Practice being confident, even if you don't feel confident. You can learn it. Don't get drunk to gain it. That way you will be mor elikely to find the RIGHT guy for you.
Y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been nothing but a model b/f but I want to breakup with him
Q. I have been in a sort of long distance relationship with a someone for over 2 years now. (It's sort of long distance because we're near each other in the holidays but we go to different unis). Anyway he's this great guy, and my best friend, and ...
A. 28 January 2013: You're confused so start by getting rid of issues you don't need clouding your decision.
1. It's good that you're caring but your choice has to be about what you want. Most everyone has or will be hurt by a break-up. Feeling guilty won't help eith... (read in full...)
The mother of my boyfriend's son doesn't like me getting close to her son
Q. I have a boyfriend who has a 3 year old son to someone else,his sons mother thinks im getting too close to their son.im not sure what to do my boyfriends sons mother has a boyfriend is hardly involved at all is this healthy??and what should i do ...
A. 28 January 2013: In addition, I hear some criticism of the boy's mother in your judgement of her decision. Big mistake and will come back to bite YOU.... (read in full...)
The mother of my boyfriend's son doesn't like me getting close to her son
Q. I have a boyfriend who has a 3 year old son to someone else,his sons mother thinks im getting too close to their son.im not sure what to do my boyfriends sons mother has a boyfriend is hardly involved at all is this healthy??and what should i do ...
A. 28 January 2013: It absolutley depends on how long you have ben going out with this guy. If it is under a year, you don't even need to meet his son. His mother is being wise and cautious.
Your'e 18-21 and can't know if your relationship will last. Children don'... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 28 January 2013: What is wrong with this guy that he would tell you about any sexual experiences with previous partners. I share your view regading anal sex but even if I didn't, I would still say that his behaviour in telling you about it is tacky and tactless. ... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?
Q. Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready an...
A. 28 January 2013: Your acquaintances will all find out because it's human nature to NOT keep secrets. However, if you were older you probably wouldn't care what your friends thought because you would know it has absolutely nothing to do with them. I understa... (read in full...)
Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?
Q. Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...
A. 28 January 2013: The only reason it's messing with you head is because you know that you are being a sucker but don't want to know it. Chances are she will want to keep you because her other sleeping partner is only using her too. He's a cheat and a user and so is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to sell my house and move with him.
Q. I've been with my bf for nearly 4 years. Before i met him, i started building a house and after a few delays it was finished 2 years ago. I have lived there since but he has remained living at home. We are on the verge of breaking up beca...
A. 28 January 2013: Hold onto your home or I will be seeing you and your bf fighting it out on Judge Judy one day n the near future. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got his ex pregnant. How can I live with this?
Q. I have boyfriend dat we have 5year inrelationship ilove him very much n i knw he realy love me too ,idnt knw hw to trust him again n forgving him after finding out that he impregnant one of his ex-gf dat they date 6year ago ,he said it was mistake ...
A. 28 January 2013: It isn't clear wether or not he slept with this girl and got her pregnant while dating you, or before.... (read in full...)
He's in and out of my life..he only appears when he wants to
Q. Hey friends! so here's a long story and i beg your patience and advice. I'm a lil bit puzzled by one guys behaviour. To clarify everything i should tell our "love"story. We've met each other by accident, coz two young Germans (about...
A. 26 January 2013: I know you would like him to be the love of your life. But he love of your life should be someone who makes you happy not someone who makes you confused. You had a bit of a holiday fling. It's easy for people to do because they know that they can ... (read in full...)
He's looking for a girlfriend but he won't ask me out?????
Q. Hello, I am in quite a situation that's driving me nuts! I am a freshman in college and I've liked this guy since August when I started. He is a senior and we work together at the college as well. I found out today that he is looking for a ...
A. 26 January 2013: So that you don't drive yourself crazy, ask him out. You'll soon find out one way or another. Then if he isn't interested you'll stop fantasizing and move on to someone who is. It's 2013. That means you are allowed to ask HIM out. ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a boy, but don't know if he wants a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I've started liking someone since getting over someone else who I think I have overlooked. He's much much nicer than the person I used to like, and I'm certain he's not a "rebound" because he's all I've been able to think about for the last few ...
A. 26 January 2013: You might never know until you ask. I suggest, if you are very good friends with his brother that you ask to set up a double date, or you ask your friend if his brother might like to go for a date to the beach or for a coffee.
Otherwise ask him ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my BF even after he lied to me about contacting another girl?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about three months. We just became officially boyfriend and girlfriend about three weeks ago. Last week I was at his house when he ran to drop something off I got on his computer and did some snooping. Well there is ...
A. 26 January 2013: Actually, he can't trust you not to check on him, and you can't trust him not to cheat.
I think you looked on his computer because your instincts told you he was cheating. And you were right. Do you think you would have checked his computer othe... (read in full...)
BF reacted badly when I mentioned my physical insecurities about sex - should he be so upset, and how can I fix this?
Q. Ok, I need some insight. Without being too graphic, my boyfriend of over a year and a half and I had finished having sex and were lying in bed. Somewhere along the lines of us just talking he said that he really like when I’m on top and in reverse, ...
A. 26 January 2013: Just ask him to meet you to talk about how you both feel. ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue he says he loves me but can't be with me. I don't know what happened!
Q. i met this guy on a dating site.we are talking by mails and on the phone before to meet 5 mnths ago.was a romantic trip.after that we met few more times.he wanted me to be a part of his life and share everythings with me.met me with his friends and ...
A. 26 January 2013: There is an expression. I "smell a rat" with this guy. Ask someone what it means.
Sadly, there are a lot of crooks out there and you have to be very careful.... (read in full...)
My bf has big money issues and I wonder if I should just leave him in this mess he created
Q. Hello everyone. My bf is currently having big money issues and he's much to be blamed. He had taken an order for which he did not have sufficient capital to do the work. So he took a loan from the bank and borrowed money from family and friends. ...
A. 26 January 2013: He will suck you down with him, and already has. Saty with him only if you want to live with perpetual financial disaster, and loss of friends to whom he will be continually borrowing money without repaying it. ... (read in full...)
If someone you liked told you not to get in touch would it be really hard not to?
Q. I met someone recently and we spent the night together, it was really great. I know he likes me but I am not ready to get involved with him so I told him not to text or call me. Now I regret it even though I don't want anything serious, and am ...
A. 26 January 2013: Sounds like you need to ask the girl whose ex only wants to be fwb to put you in touch with her ex. It sounds like your libido is over-riding your brain. You enjoyed the sex and wants some more. ... (read in full...)
How importants are breasts to a man
Q. Hi, I was wondering what the general male opinion on boobs is- how big is too big? is there a limit? are small boobs really that bad? how important are they to a mans sexual arousal? Thanks...
A. 26 January 2013: Men are pretty randy creatures. They ready for it most of the time, regardless of the size of your boobs. They don't even have to like you to be up for it.
If you have smallish boobs, lucky you because that means in a couple of years they won'... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I like to flirt with other boys. Is this wrong?
Q. Hi everyone. I find myself in a difficult situation. I've just got my first boyfriend, and i really really like him. However i find myself flirting with other guys quite a lot, and i've recently found out that this guy likes me, and starting to ...
A. 26 January 2013: If you keep flirting with various guys, your bf will get very hurt, which shows you don't really care about him as a person. If you continue to flirt, he will probably drop YOU. It's normal to enjoy attention from others, but if you are a serial ... (read in full...)
What does friends with benefits mean to you?
Q. I have a question for you lovely people.. Me and my ex stopped talking for a long time all of a sudden he missed me ( so he says) he asked me did I wanna be friends with benefits and told me I can't sleep with nobody but him... What is friends with ...
A. 26 January 2013: In this instance FWB means that your ex hasn't been getting any sex from the moment. The one he is looking to benefit is only himself. You need to guard your heart from this USER. I bet he already has broken it before, right?
He's also very call... (read in full...)
4 year relationship falling apart. I feel stuck stressed and drained and I hate feeling this way!
Q. Ok, so here is the thing. Me and my boyfriend just celebrated our four year anniversary and we have several issues that I need help on so I would greatly appreciate anyone who takes the time to read all of this and respond and I am really sorry its ...
A. 19 January 2013: Why are you punsihing yourself? This situation and this man sound terrible.
You say he is the only man in town that will put up with your crap. Then deal with your crap, and leave town.
If the fat guy, who won't kiss you or look at you while cu... (read in full...)
I want my ex back 8 months of being apart but she is seeing someone else. Should I wait around?
Q. Hey, Me and my ex split up about a 8 months ago, after being together for 4 and half years, for various different reasons. One, she had slept with another guy while we were on a break where we had a mutual agreement to not do such a thing. Another,...
A. 19 January 2013: This doesn't sound like a relationship that has been working. On-again, off-again relationships are those that aren't working. Don't put yourself on hold to be the fall-back guy (second choice) if her other bf doesn't work out.
You say the more you ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my girlfriend because of my insecurities?
Q. I have been asking for advice regarding my ldr before, so this is not the firts time im posting, i tried to post a while ago but it was rejected due to lack of information, so i will try to give as much info as i can keeping it short. I have a l...
A. 17 January 2013: If you are going to sabotage any chances you have with this girl, you will probably do the same with any future potential relationships so you best deal with this now. 1. Let HER be the one to decide if she likes you or not. 2. Get professional hel... (read in full...)
Should I let my mom know she offended me when she mentioned a diet?
Q. This is just a quick question, but it's been bothering me for a few days. I was out shopping with my mum, and she suggested that I have a small salad for lunch as I am getting 'chunky'. She then proceeded to tell me that I look like a size 12 (...
A. 17 January 2013: Oh dear! I'm so sorry your mother said that to you. Does she have an eating disorder herself? Is she obsessed with her own weight? Don't let her pass that onto you. Your stats tell me that you are lovely and slim. It may or may not have to tell your ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my BF to invite me to his house? I'm feeling left out!
Q. I feel so left out. My bf's brother and his gf wait with me before I get picked up after school which is nice but my bf is either really late coming out of school or doesn't get a lift at all. The thing is his brother and his gf are always toget...
A. 17 January 2013: If he's a good best friend and you enjoy his company then just be happy. If he doesn't like you he won't spend any time with you at all. He's probaly telling you the truth that he is embarrassed by his family so don't make him feel awkward. I knew a ... (read in full...)
I need advise about a guy I like! He's hard to get! Help please!
Q. Hi, I need some advise. I am very confused. There is this guy, which I really like. I moved to London in September and I met so many guys, but this guy I like is the only guy I have liked now in England. He is so different then the other...
A. 17 January 2013: What female reader, blond 30s said. Same.
But I'll add chill out. You'll ruin it by being desperate. Ask him out and relax. ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Should I believe him, or the people who say he's cheated?
Q. Please aunts and uncles can you help me?? .. Here goes.. I have a profile on a popular dating site. One day goin back 2+ years I received a msg from 'M' saying he saw me driving along, and so we struck up a conversation. It was on and off chatting...
A. 17 January 2013: He is cheating. If it wasn't cheating he wouldn't need to lie to you. He'd be able to say "Yes, sure. I am seeing other women. We're not in a committed realtionship". Believe the people who have told you what is going and listen to your head. Don't ... (read in full...)
More than 6 years together, he's still putting off marriage and now its making me bitter and unhappy.
Q. Sorry for the length, I feel the information is necessary to get a good reply. THANKS to anyone who reads and replies! I am 24(female), my boyfriend is 33. We have been together for over 6 years and living together for just about 6 years. No majo...
A. 17 January 2013: So you're not married. You are single. Do you get to enjoy the advantages of being single? Do you have the freedom that a single girl has? I hope you're not doing all of the wifely chores.
You are still young and well able to stand on your own to f... (read in full...)
Why do I keep putting all my anger over things on my ex?
Q. Hi. Just to set the story, I have been in a very happy relationship for 2 years, I am settled and live with my partner. My relationship with my ex was mentally abusive, and ended 3 years ago, he put me down and made me feel like nothing, he wa...
A. 17 January 2013: Your ex hurt you then, but now you are hurting yourself. Your behaviour is destructive to yourself and your current relationship, but you know that. You need to stop this behaviour and start appreciating and enjoying your life now.
I thought you ... (read in full...)
Am I a loser for not drinking or doing drugs? Will I find a girl to date?
Q. How can I be comfortable with the fact that I dont drink or do drugs. Last night, I went out with my friends to a partyhiuse and there was rndless amounts of drinks and drugs there. I never drink, so I am the sober one. I have some friends who do ...
A. 17 January 2013: If I didn't smoke when I was young I would now breaathe better and have better skin. If I didn't drink and take drugs I would now have more brain cells. If I didn't sunbake for hours I wouldn't have so many wrinkkes and be having to check for ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and want to keep the baby but I have some doubts and my BF wants me to have an abortion. Any advise?
Q. I am 8 Weeks pregnant but I am only 20 years old. I have no clue whether or not I am going to keep this baby. I know that there are plenty of younger mothers these days, but I never intended in being one of them. When I was younger I always ...
A. 17 January 2013: How lucky you are that your Mum is supportive. That means if you want to keep your baby it will be so much easier. There are also lots of women who would say how lucky you are because they can never have a baby. You already know this is your dec... (read in full...)
Relationship with an old parent and siblings.
Q. I am a 45 year old single male - I have an old mother (75+) who lives with me - we share a reasonable relationship most of the times but there are instances when things just get too difficult. I strongly believe my mother's ability to compr...
A. 17 January 2013: In Australia we had a comedy TV programme called Mother and Son starring Norman Gunston. The situation you have described is exactly the same. The poor guy has to endure caring for his feeble minded, demanding mother while his relatives do nothing ... (read in full...)
After the breakup, I want my boyfriend back. I'm devastated. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up, we have our issues as any couple does, he gave me hope, told me everything was going to be ok, and that we were going to talk, and not lose sight of each other. It took him the second night away, to sleep wi...
A. 17 January 2013: You said your previous boyfriend wasn't serious. And neither was this one. It sounds like you are quite insecure and that makes relationships more dificult but it also sounds like this guy hasn't been faithful. I suspect that there is a reason that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is domineering, selfish and hurtful. I try to break up but can't. What should I do?
Q. Hey friends... I am going through a very depressed state of my life. I need your help to get out of this. I have been in a relationship with this guy since 4 years. Previously, everything was going awesome. But now too much of fights are going be...
A. 17 January 2013: If this guy doesn't end up eventually being physically violent toward you, he will make your life hell. He is a danger to your health through the stress you will have through being in an abusive relationship. You said you fight but, a fight is ... (read in full...)
I cant count on my boyfriend anymore, what should I do now?
Q. Hello, Please advise me since Im very nervous because of my boyfriend's behavior..he is almost 11 years older than me, never married and lives in germany since he was 13. he left his country at the age of 13 to join her mother in the USA but coul...
A. 16 January 2013: You can do better than this guy. Don't tie yourself to someone who doesn't even give you food.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous and it seems like he doesn't care about me, do you think he doesn't see a future with me?
Q. Hi, I'm currently in first relashionship and i feel that my boyfriend doesn't care much about me. Lately or each time he starts to talk about the future he allways excludes me, like if he somehow knows we won't last or doesnt wants to. He says stuff ...
A. 16 January 2013: This guy is not being nice to you at all. He does know what he is saying when he talks about the woman he ends up with. It may be his way of letting you know he doesn't see a future with you. Either way it's nasty. You DON'T want a jealous boyfrien... (read in full...)
First time seeing the college psychologist and I don't feel like I go anywhere, how can I ask for another psychiatrist without hurting her feelings?
Q. Ok, so I've never went to see a "professional" about anything before...I have slipped into depression lately after leaving my ex boyfriend and I just felt a little pathetic so I decided to make an appointment with a licensed psychologist at my ...
A. 16 January 2013: If your psych isn't emotionally stable enough to handle you seeing someone else then she shouldn't be a psych. Or she can go and see one herself. I'm sure she'll be fine. Stop worrying about her and look after yourself.... (read in full...)
Why don't I want sex?
Q. I get horny and always want to masturbate but when the person I'm in a relationship with tries to start anything I don't want to! They say they just want to have that connection with me...but I can't get in the right mood. I'm young...and ...
A. 16 January 2013: Have you spoken to your GP about this. If he thinks there is a problem he may refer you to someone who can help. You say you make a lot of sex jokes. This suggests you might be a teenager. If not I suggest you stop the sex jokes as they can be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my religious parents that I'm bisexual now, or wait until I am older?
Q. So 15 and bisexual. I lean more to the guys side but I can some girl do turn me on, but I problem is that I want to break the news to my parents, and knowing my mom being so religious and traditional and my dad who I barely talk to. I know that ...
A. 16 January 2013: For your safety and well being I suggest you wait. As long as you do not engage in any dangerous or risky sexual behaviours, it sounds like you would be better off not saying anything. Your mother has already told you how she would react, and your ... (read in full...)
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