A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,Please advise me since Im very nervous because of my boyfriend's behavior..he is almost 11 years older than me, never married and lives in germany since he was 13. he left his country at the age of 13 to join her mother in the USA but couldnt and its now been more than 34 years living in Germany..he lost his father at age of 21. and since 13 he had to work to pay his cost of living. his father was in his country and he was living in Germany with his 17 year old sister in the hope of joining their mom in the USA.Anyway since April Im in a long distance friendship with him ..I didnt like his strick appearance when he came to visit me but I found him very kind on that time!Although he was much older than me we started talking...chatting...he came 4 times to visit me and promised he will move to the USA to his family here and wants to marry me.But the problem is I noticed since 2 months ago when it was my birthday he didnt even call me and pretented that he had forgotten while a few days before my birthday he wishes he could be next to me!Anyway I was very upset and didnt talk to him for some days ..he told me he will make up buy me this that.....but when he came to visit me he didnt bring me even a chocolate nothing..no birthday gift ..no xmas gift...nothing ..the first day after 5 months I saw him we spend morning till evening even I told him lets have something to eat Im very hungry...he didnt care and told me you are going to party and I dont know where to go for some salad...better if you go home!day after I saw him for 2 hours ..4 days nothing even a coffee! I think it was insulting to me I spent my time and left. my sick mom who needs my full time help but his manner was insulting ...He went back to Germany insisting to talk with me but Im tired I never can count on his words...he always says give me a chance to make up but never stay on his words and make an excuse and new story..recently he sent me message that I bought you something give me your mailing address after some min ..told cant mail it to USA!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2013):
 He's a time waster honey... cut him loose and find a local guy...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 January 2013):
 From the story which I can decipher from your submittal.... it "sounds" clear that you are hooking yourself on to a guy who cares not a whit about YOU....
Why not do yourself a favor, and FORGET ABOUT HIM?.... and get on with your life.... ????
Good luck....
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (16 January 2013):
You can do better than this guy. Don't tie yourself to someone who doesn't even give you food.
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