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writes:So 15 and bisexual. I lean more to the guys side but I can some girl do turn me on, but I problem is that I want to break the news to my parents, and knowing my mom being so religious and traditional and my dad who I barely talk to. I know that would be I guess you can say mad. one time my mother almost figured out and she said if I ever was like that, she would not even consider me as her child she would send me back to Mexico and let me live with my grandfather. Should I wait until I'm out of the house and tell them when I'm 18 or should I tell them now? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2013): You need to look at the bigger picture and at whether you could live with your parents while they are judging you harshly over something that you can't change and shouldn't change because it is a part of who you are.You also should about whether the threats about sending you are empty threats. Because when people come out, their families may not accept it at first but get over it eventually so you should think about whether this Could happen. But in the end the decision is yours and yours alone because the most important thing is for you to be happy with you are and no one has the right to tell you who you are or should be.If I was you I would also join some websites which are aimed at people worried about being gay. Because it really helps talking to people who are in a similar situation as you and they are likely to have good advice about how to handle your situation.Best of luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2013):
 Based on your mom's response I would wait. Sadly often I find that being bisexual gets less respect than being straight or gay... even my gay brother just teases me that I can't make up my mind.
it's very hard for parents who dream of a "normal" life for their kids to accept that it's not going to be the white picket fence and 2.5 kids, a wife, a dog and a mini-van... but over time they adapt.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (16 January 2013):
I would wait. Move out as soon as you're able, but if you do it now she could make your life difficult. It's hard enough to come out without the support of your family.
You should know that there are areas of the country you can move to where being "out" is not a taboo. If you feel like you couldn't be yourself where you live you may want to consider moving when you are older.
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (16 January 2013):
For your safety and well being I suggest you wait. As long as you do not engage in any dangerous or risky sexual behaviours, it sounds like you would be better off not saying anything. Your mother has already told you how she would react, and your Dad if he is cold and distant may be worse. Being 15 can be difficult enough without making mor etrouble for yourself. Also you are still maturing and your sexual preferences will still be developing. Don't lock yourself into any labels at this stage. You will be more sure of yourself in a few years and your parents threats may hurt but you'll be more empowered to make your own decisions.
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