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*onfuzzledamethyst
writes:I feel so left out.My bf's brother and his gf wait with me before I get picked up after school which is nice but my bf is either really late coming out of school or doesn't get a lift at all. The thing is his brother and his gf are always together before school, break, lunch and after school. I only see my bf sometimes before school for half of lunch and waiting to be taken home but every wednesday and sometimes fridays his brothers gf gets to go round, its fine cos they are nice and talk to me when my bf is not about... but he won't invite me round, neither of them can understand it, they have tried encouraging him to invite me but he's really nervous that his family will embarrass him, but it was okay at the start and I didn't really mind.But now (6 months) I feel left out when those three get taken home together and I am left on my own, and the most I have seen of his parents is on fb pictures and trying to smile at me through a car window :( I can't demand to go round but I want to meet his older, older sister, and his parents they sound like they have a hell of alot of fun.. and I can't join in. It's getting me abit down, also my bf has been round mine twice and its kinda looking bad he's been round mine but I have never been round his.I really feel jealous and awkward and his bro and his gf kinda want us to all be together but my bf is really awkward... Additional detailsHis bro is nearly 17 (sixth former) he is independant and laid back and is quite mature. His Bro's Gf is 15 (same age as me) but she is in the year above me but she has been quite forceful to get her way with her bf, unlike me a not very forceful person.My bf is 15, same as me, he is quite tense and gets stressy easily and is slightly immature with his mates but he is a nice guy and we love each other...us 3 are all friendly but my bf hates his brother coz he keeps putting him down infront of me (fair enough)me and my bf are both in the same year and see each other in science (the lesson we have the most times in a 2 week timetable) at lunchtimes and when we are being taken and picked up from schoolmy bf and his bro and his gf have all been going out for the same time (6 months)My bf hates my friends because they are all mean to us so I have to go to his form with people who stay out of our business. He lives with his brother, both parents, his older sister (at uni but lives at home) who has a bf who is round often, his older brother who has his gf round every wednesday, and his oldest sister her husband and their baby who come to visit from Norwich sometimes.And on top of all that, he has swimming everyday twice a day (4 in the morning till 6) and after school except wednesdays, and at weekends he is either with his family or doing swimming gala's that last all day, and we text quite often.Whereas I am free 90% of the time and don't have any siblings or much family to keep me preoccupied but I do have many friends who I see when I can but apart from that yeah...I get his house is packed, he is worried and embarrassed but does anyone think he will ever invite me round or should I not worry about it? if there is anyway I can get him to invite me round without looking pushy or offputting..What can I do.. help please?xx
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reader, confuzzledamethyst +, writes (18 January 2013):
confuzzledamethyst is verified as being by the original poster of the question bf means boyfriend not bestfriend...but thanks
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (17 January 2013):
If he's a good best friend and you enjoy his company then just be happy. If he doesn't like you he won't spend any time with you at all. He's probaly telling you the truth that he is embarrassed by his family so don't make him feel awkward. I knew a guy that was so embarrased by his mother and his house that none of his friends and girlfriends were allowed anywhere near his house. We had to drop him off down the street when giving him a lift home. It was difficult for him. Does you bf invite anyone else to his house? If not, don't worry about what his older brother does. You might harm your friendship if you pressure this boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2013): Don't invite him over to your house anymore until he takes you to his. But don't tell him you're doing this.Also, don't be eager to hang out with him when he wants to. Turn him down sometimes saying that you have something else to do. Then he'll make time for you because he wants to see you so badly and he might invite you over to his house.
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