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writes:My girlfriend and I were doing great, and going on over 8 months. However, my parents found out about us and now we have to be even more careful about hiding it. When my mom and I were talking about it, she said she doubted that I was 'in love' and instead just felt a very strong platonic love for my friend. I always want to see her, I want to do anything to make her smile, I've never slept better than when she was holding me. I never doubted being in love until she said that I just cared deeply for my friend. Do you think she's right? Or do you think my mom just put doubts in my head and I should trust myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I don't think your mom is right. I think your mom WANTS you to think she is right.
Sounds like love to me :)
Love, like so many other things in life, evolves and changes, maybe your mom isn't totally ready for you to love someone. (other then family).
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 Your mom is wrong, you no what you feel and you should trust that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2012):
 I do not doubt that you are in love with your GF now. I also do not doubt that she is not the last person you will love.
We are able love more than one person in our lifetimes and perhaps your mom is scared you will think that you are in love and that's it and tie yourself down to this girl for life without seeing what else is out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the input everyone! I know my mom is having a hard time, she's made my girlfriend and I break up, but we refuse to let that happen so we're just being very careful in hiding it. I just wish my mom could be happy that someone makes me so happy instead of saying that I'm wrong.
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reader, marjieex3 +, writes (20 June 2012):
If you think that you are in love then maybe you are. People dont realize but love can happen anytime. But then again maybe you aren't in love. Dont let your mom decide your feelings for you. Love grows stronger with time. If you and your significant other break up, and in a couple years you find someone else you've been with for a while, and you care for them even more; you realize that maybe you didnt love that other person. But you can always fall in love, just dont let someone else decide your own feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): If a single comment is enough to instill doubt in you, then yes... I'm not sure you can truly say you love this person.
If you can overcome this doubt, then yes, maybe you are. But if you are choosing a stray comment over a relationship, then in love you are not.
Besides, at your age... it's very, very rare for true, actual love to exist between two people.
Flynn 24
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 June 2012):
 No I don't think your Mum is right. Maybe this is just what she wishes were true. You know how you feel better than anyone else. Good luck and take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): Only you can say whether or not you love someone. If you believe you love this girl, never let anyone say otherwise - it is not their place and they cannot know how you feel or what you think. It may be hard for your mother to accept you are a lesbian but that is her problem not yours. Follow your heart and let nobody doubt you because only you know how you truly feel.
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