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*olidayinspain
writes:About 6 months ago I met a girl online, She lives in Spain and I in Norway. We really hit it off, we have been seeing eachother for about 2-4 hours on skype every night, and eventually we start text other during the whole days also. She also decided she is going to move here study in Norway next year, we are thinking about living close by or even together. She said she loved me, she said she didnt know where I had been her entire life.. 2 days before I was going to visit her she stopped texting me or showing up on skype, not even a single word.. and she stood me up at the station in Barcelona...I havent heard a single word from her...How can someone do that to another person? What can possibly be an excuse for doing that?Can you please help me understand? I dont know if I can trust a person again, im heartbroken..
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Great news and thanks for sharing it. :-)
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reader, holidayinspain +, writes (11 August 2012):
holidayinspain is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt worked out. She actually came to australia and it all worked out. big misunderstand. thanks for all replies!:)
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (11 July 2012):
OP you said she lied about to you about her last name. That suggests to me that she doesn't want to be looked for or found, I'm afraid. I hope she gets in touch with you but you need to prepare for the possibility of never hearing from her again. If nothing happened to her and she is safe and well, we know that she's a coward and can't face the reality of a relationship with you. If she's a coward then she is not going to be able to face a final conversation with you to explain her actions. It's sad. Once you've done all you can to make sure she's not come to any harm (contact her college, place of work etc) you might just have to accept the nasty truth and move on. It's a horrible position to be in and I truly wish you well.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 July 2012):
 http://www.phonebookoftheworld.com/spain/white-pages.asp
Maybe that can help?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 July 2012):
I hope nothing happened to her either, but I would just try and enjoy Spain without her, send her one text a day and perhaps an e-mail? Could be her phone was stolen?
Do you have her home address? Or her full name? (if you don't have the first but the latter maybe you can find her in the phone book?)
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reader, holidayinspain +, writes (10 July 2012):
holidayinspain is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts the fact I dont know if she is alright or just disappeared on me. Because everything was going more than great, excellent in fact. the fact of no closure which is killing me.. Do anyone know any sites where I can find out information about a person by mail, name, location stuff like that?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (10 July 2012):
I think she got cold feet. It's an absolutely horrible, nasty and selfish way for her to behave and I know you must feel awful. I'm so sorry this happened.
Not every girl is like this. Not at all.
The situation makes no sense at all. No one but the girl herself can explain what was going through her mind. One day she might get in touch to apologise but more likely she will stick her head in the sand and pretend nothing happened.
Its a cliche but the only thing that will help you feel better is time. Don't hang out on Skype. Get out and and keep yourself as distracted as possible with friends, family, gym, etc. You'll still think of her and what happened but it will get less and the feelings will fade.
All the best.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (10 July 2012):
 Oh, I hope your girl is alright. Something worst always comes to our mind when things like this happens, coz this kind of behavior is unacceptable, really irresponsible and rude.However, ofcourse we cannot rule out that some people can just decide to disappear like it's nothing. Your girl might have gone cold-feet, not to mention, that you are dating online which makes matters even worse. Online relationships provide a bigger opportunity for some people to lie or pretend about themselves.Now the important thing is you, forget this girl and find a way to distract yourself. You might be surprised at how easy you could forget her until you are in that situation. Six months of not seeing her yet is in itself a good proof that your relationship is not that deep. Good luck!
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reader, holidayinspain +, writes (10 July 2012):
holidayinspain is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve sent her multiple text before I left, and I sent her message by mail and skype where I was staying, and where to meet me.. nothing...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 July 2012):
 I have not heard of this
have you tried to contact her?
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reader, holidayinspain +, writes (10 July 2012):
holidayinspain is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies
I checked every hospital in the city and all the newspapers while I was there also, yeah pretty patethic.. So I assume she is alright.. I also found out she lied about her last name time this whole time.
I could understand it if we talked for 1-2 months.. But 6 months?! Every single day for 6 months.. She told me her grandfather died and I talked to her on skype the whole night before work among other things.
The last time I talked to her she was really excited to see me, not a single clue of what could be wrong, she did not even send a lousy text after 6 months..
Have you heard heard of girls playing games like this before?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (10 July 2012):
I’m afraid that until she gets in contact, there’s very little you can do to find out what’s going on. Assuming all is well, it is extremely rude and inconsiderate to stand a visitor up when they’ve travelled so far to see you. If you’ve messaged her to check everything’s okay, you’ve probably just got to assume that it is unless you hear otherwise, and accept that she’s got cold feet about this relationship.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 July 2012):
Is it possible something happened to her? have you verified that she just disappeared and is actually alright?
she stopped texting and showing up on skype at all...
no clue that anything was wrong?
before we go further... verify that she is ok... because to be honest i know a woman who got stood up by a guy and was very angry... and weeks and weeks later found out he was killed in a car accident on his way to meet her and no one knew to contact her and tell her...
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