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writes:I saw noticed my girl check out another guy, should i be worried?Ok lets put it into perspective, yes iv checked out other girls, but not infront of her, difference is i dont 'want' or 'feel' the need to be with these other girls, i just look cuz of human beuty (i know i know, weak excuse, all you ladies out there are prob thinking pfft as if u are) but its the truth, i only love my girl and just my girl. But this is first time iv seen her do it, honestly it made me feel really messed up, gut wrenching type feeling, and i went kind of quiet for couple of hours, shekept asking whats wrong but i didnt say anything, when i dropped her home i didnt say anything just sped off, now she wont stop calling. but im asking this question because im seeking truthfull honest answers from a girls perspective, /IF YOU LOVE YOUR MAN DO YOU CHECK OUT OTHER GUYS? I caught her looking, it was obvious.. but not sure if she was doing it unintentionally, yes i am a paranoid type person but who the hell isnt? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 June 2012):
 why can men appreciate human beauty and women can't?
of course I look if it's easy on the eyes... men and women...
I'm not obvious... I don't turn my head or twist my body.. I don't make sounds or point etc....
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 You saw her notice another guy, went all huffy and silent, sped off and now it sounds like you're not answering her calls. Is that right? That's a huge overreaction if you don't mind me saying. And it's not really fair on her. Girls and boys aren't that different. You say that you look at girls sometimes, and you know that it isn't a threat to your girlfriend. Why then should her looking at a guy be a threat to you? I feel that you are being irrational about this and yes you are paranoid. And no, not everyone is as paranoid as you are.I hope that you can talk about this with your girlfriend so that she knows what all that silent treatment was about.. Dont give her a guilt trip about it or she'll be put in a position where she doesn't dare raise her eyes off the floor when she's out with you. Believe me, neither of you want that.I think you need to consider why you are paranoid and got so sensitive about this very minor issue.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (19 June 2012):
Maybe that's how maybe she also feels when you are checking out other girls (you mention that you are discreet but maybe she actually has noticed when you check girls out). However that look could have been something else too, maybe she thought she knew the guy and was trying to put a name on him, maybe she was looking at him for other reasons.
If she has done it once in an oogling manner i don't think there is any harm or that it was intentional, but if it's a regular thing and she makes comments or compares you to guys that would be crossing the line. If it's just once, i would let it go.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (19 June 2012):
Who isn’t paranoid? Well, actually most people would think that the extent of your paranoia is very unhealthy. And, if it’s honesty you want, you’re being a bit of a hypocrite. You love your girlfriend and don’t want to be with anyone else, but yet you still look at other girls because, let’s face it, it’s human nature to find other people attractive. So why can’t that be equally true for your girlfriend? Why can’t her attention be drawn to a good-looking man just because that’s what people do? If it doesn’t mean anything when you do it, why are you getting so upset about her doing exactly the same as you? You need to work out what lies at the root of your insecurity. Has she, or some-one else cheated on you in the past? Have you cheated on some-one and now live in fear that it’ll happen to you? Or are you possessive and controlling? Or maybe you’re lacking in self-confidence and believe that she’ll leave for some-one better as soon as she gets the chance? Maybe none of these are true of you, they’re just a few common reasons why people are insecure. You need to work out why you are and deal with it, otherwise your insecurity will be a destructive force in this relationship and ultimately ruin it,. That’s the blunt reality, so patch things up with her and work on your issues.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Sure. We like human beauty too. If there's something out there that's visually outstanding, it will catch my eye, sort of authomatically , whether it's a man, or a woman, or a horse. No drooling, no ogling though :). Just looking.
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