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writes:Is this a good text to send my ex?We ended on alright terms due to external reasons (though reasons that could be worked through in my opinion) and he seemed DESPERATE to stay friends, however 2 weeks down the line we had an argument basically just over how I was willing to put the effort in to make the relationship work, and he was basically just saying no it wouldnt work right now (i personally believe it could). I had a go at him, he had a go back then we ended up not speaking for 10 days. I thought that was it for good.10 days later he text me out of the blue basically just asking how i was. I didn't reply because I was still very angry at him and i didn't (and still don't) wanna get into the routine of texting him occasionally to get my hopes up every time and for him to just think he could click his fingers and have me back whenever he wanted.It's been a week since he text me and the anger has died down a bit, i still miss him and would still be willing to have him back to work on things if he changed his mind but at the same time if he doesnt wanna work on things i dont want to be friends because i need to get over it. So i have written out this reply-"hey, sorry i haven't got back to you sooner i just needed time to think. i don't think we should be talking yet, i miss you so much but the past few weeks has made me realise that if we can't be together then no contact with you at all is honestly the best thing for me right now, i have to look out for myself and i need more space so i can forget and move on. sorry if this seems a bit deep i just thought u should know, i didnt wanna be a bitch and just ignore your text. i saw you ended up playing ******** (festival) in the end, well done :) i hope it went alright. i hope you're ok x"is that text ok to send? like not too harsh but still giving him a bit of an ultimatum? and is it ok that i've said i miss him? i thought that him texting me after 10 days of not speaking might indicate he missed me..also if he wanted me back would he say? right now he probably thinks im ignoring him and i hate him
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've sent it... the reason I can't say it in person is because I was pretty much torn apart by our break up and he knows it, I want to come across as the confident and just generally nice person that he was attracted to at the beginning, rather than the hysterical wreck that he saw during our breakup. I haven't seen him in person in almost 4 weeks and if I saw him and had to say all that I don't think I'd hold it together. I need to stop making a fool of myself
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 Am I the only one who thinks important things like this should not be left to texting?
I think it's a great sentiment and a great idea but NOT by text.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 June 2012):
 It's a good text, open and honest and not angry.
It's hard to stay friends when you still have feelings for someone and I think it's right that you have a bit of space.
Good luck and I hope things work out well for you.
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reader, shellycg +, writes (20 June 2012):
 its always hard when people break up and trust me i feel for you totally,
I do think tho that he was testing the water with you, to see what reaction he would get from you, as a man likes to feel wanted , trust me on this, men need space and time and they always come running back, in some way,
good that you didnt text straight back, and i do think your text should include that you still love him... it leaves him thinking ... and he would be more inclined to text you back ...
I hope this helps xx
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 i think the text is good to send, not too needy not to pushy, but you getting your point across.
Im sorry you are going through this it isnt easy to tell someone that you feel deeply for that you dont want to speak to them.
But like you said you need time to heal, and to get over him.
careful that he doesnt use the fact that you want him back to his advantage. and what i mean by that is, he can easily say he wants to work things out but take it slowly, just so that he can have you in his life.
He either wants you completely or not at all!
Hope this helps
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