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writes:I have a question that is more general: how do you relate to couples that, you know, are so fond of each other that they can't stop bickering, and saying "I love you" every 30 seconds, making in-jokes that no one understands, and going on about how the other is awesome? I mean, it is cute, but it also makes carrying a normal conversation impossible, and I can't help feeling quite annoyed when that happens. I am not talking about 20 years old either, I am talking about 30 to 40 years old people. How do you feel about them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I also hate it. It makes me miserable, probably because I'm single and not that happy about it. So I avoid those people. But in honesty, I don't knowi if avoiding it is best, especially it's close friends or relatives. I guess it's better to be honest and say it makes you feel uncomfortable - easier said than done, however. I can't tell my cousin and his wife to "get a room" when they are making boring in jokes about their pet cat (which they do regularly). I suppose I try to change the subject...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 IF I had couple friends like that, I'd not spend time with them...
I love "get a room"..... occasionally we will be kind of cute that way (I'll sit on his lap or something)and folks will say "get a room" and we say "we have one thanks"
but we are not 24/7 like that... and once in a while it's fine.. .but constantly... yeah not comfortable.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Ignore them. Stop hanging out with them. It's really annoying and bothersome when people do that. It's also very childish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): "Get a room" That always works for me. "Oh Jesus lads get a room." or "right it's time I headed away I'm obviously only getting in the way here"
That kind of thing absolutely annoys the hell out of me. I will gladly walk away from my friends who are acting that way. They usually stop if you let them know it annoys you.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (9 July 2012):
It could be for a number of reasons: they could be less happy than they seem, so they put on an act for the outside world to try and fool them, but overdo it. Other people just enjoy talking about themselves, they tend to regard themselves as far more interesting than they really are and assume everyone else will find them equally fascinating. Perhaps such cynical explanations are not true of a small minority of couples who do this, they do it because they are just so in love with each other. But in any case it’s selfish, because as you point out, it makes normal conversation impossible. In-jokes that are designed to exclude everyone else are inappropriate when other people are part of the conversation. You could try subtly pointing out how irritating it is, such as by joking about how “nauseating” they are, or asking whether we should talk about something else now? But how responsive they are to such gentle rebukes will depend on quite how self-obsessed they are. Failing that, find other more interesting people to talk to.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Love makes people act silly. You can always start to point it out by making jokes about how nauseating they are, but if they continue and it really bugs you, just stop hanging out with them until they get out of their "honeymoon phase."
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): Personally, I can't say I've ever been around two people that carry on like that, drooling over one another, but I imagine its annoying especially if they can't engage in a normal conversation with others because they're too busy flirting with each other lol.
I imagine I'd stop having their company if it bothered me that much to be fair, as from their behaviour it seems like they aren't interested in anyone else's company but each others, and why should anyone sit there feeling like a gooseberry while they get it on?
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