Was I selfish because I concentrated on my career so much?
Q. Can someone help me out please? I was in a relationship for about 8 months last summer with a girl who i met at uni and lived close to my home. The relationship was amazing and we got along so well, never argued and spent all our time together. She ...
A. 30 March 2010: You're making an important investment in your future career - don't regret that! If it's really meant to be than the two of you can work it out once you return home. Although the break might feel like an eternity, a year really isn't THAT long.
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He has been looking at porn since I got pregnant! How do I aproach him about this issue?
Q. My husband and I have been married for just over a year. We dated for four years before deciding to get married. We seemed to be on the same page about all the big decisions, including having children young. I am now almost 6 months pregnant. I ...
A. 10 September 2008: I think DiovanLestat's answer was utterly horrible. Maybe she's content to let her husband look at porn, and if that's what works for her, then great. But watching porn is absolutely NOT normal and women do NOT need to tolerate it. The pornography ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never wants to have sex with me, and nothing has changed since we discussed it!
Q. I am a 20 year old female currently in a relationship with a guy, where the sex is very disappointing. Well when we actually have sex it is great but these days that's not very often. He seems to be a very sexual person on his own, I mean he used ...
A. 10 September 2008: Maybe he has a porn addiction? Porn addiction is a very serious, rampant problem that has exploded since the invention of the internet. People like to downplay porn addiction and make fun of it, or claim it's not a problem at all, but they're very ... (read in full...)
How do I find a girl to marry?
Q. I am having hard time to find a girl for marriage. As of now i am not able find a girl whom i can get marrige. I really dont know how to contact with girls. I am working in a company and most of the time i spend in my company and at home. As i am in ...
A. 5 July 2008: Oh, I forgot to mention dating websites. Those are also very good for meeting people with similar interests. ... (read in full...)
I woke up to find him having sex with me. Am I still a virgin?
Q. i need to know if im still a virgin!! i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he stopped at mine on thursday and we both fell asleep but then when i woke up he was in me, ive never had sex before and i didnt feel him on me but he was actually ...
A. 5 July 2008: I complete agree with Collaroy, his post was 100% correct! What happened to you was RAPE. There is no other word for it. Some guy took advantage of you while you were passed out. He didn't ask for your permission, and you certainly didn't actively ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm too old for all the men out there!
Q. i keep reading that men prefer younger women and this is starting to panic me as we're all getting older and i haven't yet met the man of my dreams! I'm worried it'll get too late. At which age do women lose their appeal to men?...
A. 5 July 2008: At the top of your post it says you're between 26-29 years old. Ok, 26-29 is NOT old! You're in your prime! I have never heard anyone call a twenty-something woman "old"!
I don't think a woman ever necessarily loses her appeal. Perhaps some men pref... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: Your mother is really not old. 44 is quite young by most people's standards. Your mother is just a woman with a healthy sexual appetite. She indulged one of her sexual cravings and was probably responsible about it. She didn't do anything wrong. I ... (read in full...)
How do I find a girl to marry?
Q. I am having hard time to find a girl for marriage. As of now i am not able find a girl whom i can get marrige. I really dont know how to contact with girls. I am working in a company and most of the time i spend in my company and at home. As i am in ...
A. 5 July 2008: Since you work a lot and mostly hang out at home, I'd say the first thing you need to do is go somewhere where you can meet new people. Try fesivals or clubs or organizations; maybe some charities or places where you can volunteer? Since you're in a ... (read in full...)
Do you think he cheated/left 'cos he couldn't take the insecurity anymore?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and were together for 18 months. He left his girlfriend of 7 years for me, who he's cheated on all the way through. He'd also cheated many times on his girlfriend of 5 years before that but dumped her for the next. He told...
A. 29 June 2008: What he calls "love" is not love at all. It's just sexual infatuation. "Lust at first sight." I'm sorry, I really don't think you can fall in love with someone in three weeks! This guy's totally crazy and full of crap!... (read in full...)
I have taken the pill for more than 2 years without the suggested interruptions, could this cause infertility?
Q. I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is 8 years older than me, and I do want to be with him forever. Since we have seen each other, I went on the Mini Pill- Cerazette, and we have always had sex without a condom. We are ...
A. 28 June 2008: I've never taken that particular kind of pill. I'm sure you'll be just fine in the fertility department; they do test these medications you know! But I can understand why you'd be afraid. I suppose only time will tell if you are still fertile or ... (read in full...)
Do you think he cheated/left 'cos he couldn't take the insecurity anymore?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and were together for 18 months. He left his girlfriend of 7 years for me, who he's cheated on all the way through. He'd also cheated many times on his girlfriend of 5 years before that but dumped her for the next. He told...
A. 28 June 2008: He'll definitely cheat on her. This man has some serious issues, and I really think you're better off without him. He's a chronic cheater and I wouldn't doubt if he was slightly addicted to sex. There's some problem he has with himself - probably ... (read in full...)
The sex is great but only once a week, it hasn't always been this way and it's so frustrating now!
Q. Help! I am finding myself contemplating unfaithfulness and it is freaking me out. I have always tried to be an honest decent person and this is terrible. I have been in a commited gay relationship for almost four years. My bf is a wonderful man bu...
A. 28 June 2008: It sounds like you're really trying to make this work, and I applaud you for that. I'm sure you're an amazaing boyfriend.
Now it's up to your partner. It's up to him to change. Try some more communication. Have you told him exactly what you've t... (read in full...)
Is my gf done with me??
Q. Ive been with my highschool sweetheart for over 2 years now. I miss the days when we had sex constantly, sometimes 3 times a day. Now I feel unloved and neglected. we have sex 1 or 2 times a week and it always feels like im pressuring her or like ...
A. 28 June 2008: It sounds like you're placing a lot of blame on yourself. It's NEVER your fault if you're cheated on. It's your gf's fault for not being decent enough to properly end things with you before hopping in bed with someone else. You're not too horny - ... (read in full...)
Should I feel ashamed about being curious about sex?
Q. ok alot of people i kno that is my age are having sex. Nobody pressures me into it cuz they already kno rite off the back i would curse them out lol. But im starting to ask myself wat does it feel like when you have sex because i'm so curious. ...
A. 28 June 2008: It's perfectly ok to be curious. You're at the age when your peers start talking about sexual things, and it's totally fine to be interested in sex. However, it's NOT ok to be having sex at your age. Props on being able to say no and not be ... (read in full...)
I am suppose to be going on a date tonight, but I don't feel the want to go? I don't know why
Q. I met a guy 2 weeks ago at my local pub. We've kept in touch by txt. I am suppose to be going out tonight with him. He is 30, 7 years younger than me. We have nothing in common, he likes to drink frequently, used to do drugs, and doesn't have any ...
A. 28 June 2008: Well, maybe you could just go on this one date. Personally I think it would be kinda rude to cancel at the last minute. Just go, try to have fun, and don't drink anything if you don't want a hangover!
Of course, if you're really bent on not goin... (read in full...)
I get this jealous streak when it comes to my older boyfriend! Is this because I'm inexperienced?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, and he is 8 years older than me (imonly 18). I find myself feeling jealous when he goes out, as i dont go out hardly ever, and i also get jealous because he talks to quite a few old friends- of ...
A. 28 June 2008: I'm sorry you don't have any answers so far, and I'm sorry that I can't provdide one either. That's because I'm in almost the exact same situation. It is difficult and I can't figure it out either.
Sorry I don't have an answer, but at least yo... (read in full...)
I had a comtraceptive implant in March and now I'm torn between being safe and dirty or unsafe and clean
Q. First a little background info. I had the contraceptive implant back in March and the doctor did say that it would take about three months for my periods to sort themselves out. In the first couple of weeks my period was constant then stopped but ...
A. 28 June 2008: Why don't you just get the implant removed and use another method of bc, like the pill?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, we already have 4 kids and I can't handle any more! She won't agree to abortion, any advice?
Q. My girlfriends pregnant again... We already have 4 kids, she popped the first sprog out when she was 15, had to stay with her ever since, i dont wanna leave her but i cant handle any more kids! Its doin my nut in! She wont get rid of it either., ...
A. 24 June 2008: Have you logically explained all this to your girlfriend? Have you explained to her that abortion is really the best option? If you have, and she still disagrees...well, you'll have to live with it. It's her choice. You chose to sleep with her and ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend I caught her daughter having sex while I was walking the dog?
Q. Ok bit of a strange question for you. Well recently I was walking my dog when I came upon my best friends daughter and her boyfriend (well I presume) having sex. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt like an open field, in all fairness it seemed quite a ...
A. 24 June 2008: I'd tell the mother. This mom needs a wake-up call to realize that her daughter isn't a perfect little angel. She needs to get with reality, and this is the perfect time to bring her back down to earth. What use is it to allow the mother to be so ... (read in full...)
He asked for pictures of me in my underware, does he really like me or is he just trying to use me for my body?
Q. Hi.. This guy i really like has started to ask me to send pictures of me in my underwear! I was really shocked as he claims he is still a virgin so i didnt think he would be into that sort of thing and when i ask him why he wants them he says its...
A. 24 June 2008: Do NOT send him any pictures! Who knows what he'll do with them! He can put them on Myspace or facebook, show them to his entire school and family if he wants! People do some really sick things to hurt others. Please don't do it, you'll only regret ... (read in full...)
I am a 14 y/o dating a 27 y/o and my friends say it is wrong... should I leave him or just ignore what they are saying?
Q. I am 14 years old and i am dating a 27 year old,who was my brothers friend and he watched me grow up.My friends think hes a paedophile and hate him but i do like him and they know im interested in older guys.Also my friends sister has been threating ...
A. 24 June 2008: The only reason - and I do mean the ONLY reason - this man is interested in you is for sex. Period. That's it. I don't care what he tells you, that's the facts.
The fact that this man has watched you grow up and now wants physical intimacy... (read in full...)
I'm a bit shy and I get walked all over. Advice please.
Q. I'm 17 year's old and i my whole life I've only had one girlfriends, and it was not very serious. Over the past year i have been able to talk to girls a lot better but i still struggle with talking altogether because I'm a bit shy and what you would ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well, try to pick the right girls. Nice girls will not walk all over you. Go for the shy, quiet type of girls. They're usually the most interesting, nice, and willing to open up, as long as you have patience. Those loud, outgoing, popular type of ... (read in full...)
Might I be gay? AND my friend?
Q. i'm a normal 15 year old boy , i am thinking that am gay but i dont know... i still like woman and everything but , the other day i was in my neighbor's house and i dont know how to tell.. but i think i like him, i was in his room playing wii when...
A. 23 June 2008: You're young and you're experimenting. Your hormones are surging so stongly right now that just about ANY kind of sexuality will get you off. Did you do anything wrong? - No. Many teenage boys experiment together. No big deal.
Are you gay? - W... (read in full...)
How do I know when it is OK to be sexually active? I'm 15.
Q. im only 15 yrs old how do i know when im sexualy active because i want to have sex but then i dont want to but i really do want to have sex badly with my bf and how do i tell my bf im ready to have sex with him?...
A. 22 June 2008: You are ready when you feel completely emotionally and mentally prepared to have sex. This means that you know all the consequences of having sex. You realize that you could get caught. You realize that sex can result in pregnancy. You realize that ... (read in full...)
Quick.. how can I make my boyfriend stay (instead of staying at a friends house) so we can try to get pregnant like we want to?
Q. quick my boyfriend wants 2 go stay a couple nights w/his friends but im ovulating n we've been tryin 2 get prego 4 awhile soo im tryin 2 figure out how 2 make him stay home without makin him feel guilty and without him thinkn tht im mad abt it or ...
A. 22 June 2008: If he wants a child too then this shouldn't be a problem. Explain to him what you've explained to us and he'll understand. Of course, you know, there's always next month!
However, if he does NOT want a child, or doesn't know what you're planning... (read in full...)
Do I inititate contact, or do I wait for her?
Q. i've been in a very confusing on and off relationship for almost a year now. It's been pretty complicated. In a nutshell, i messed up and lost her trust; not because of cheating but because i kept some things from her. She forgave me for what I've ...
A. 22 June 2008: Your gf and I are in very similar situations.
She doesn't know what she wants. She probably has some resentment toward you, but she also wants you. I say this because it's the EXACT same way that I feel about my bf. I love him, but I want to push ... (read in full...)
Have recently found out my husband is doing drugs is our marriage ending anyway?
Q. I've been married for 2 years and have recently found out my husband is doing drugs. I argue with him all the time and feel he is not listening to my feelings or thoughts. We have one child and I feel this marriage is going nowhere and am thinking ...
A. 22 June 2008: Try to work it out. If his problem is just mild, like if he's not addicted, then communication is key. Try to CALMLY talk to him about this. Tell him all your thoughts and fears about his drug use. If he refuses to listen, go to a marriage counselor ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? Or am I one of those people who can't?
Q. I am fifteen years old, and my ex boyfriend and I we're dating for around seven months. October 12 07 - May 9th 08. We had alot of unprotected sex, and it started in febuary and ended early June. I never have got pregnant but I've had alot of ...
A. 22 June 2008: I think you've just been extremely lucky! Get a pregnancy test. If it's positive you need to very seriously weigh your options. If it's negative, thank god and get on some birth control!
Planned Parenthood offers birth control pills cheap; I... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a crush that's wrong?
Q. I hope someone can advise what to do for the best. I`ve just recently found out a younger female cousin of mine has got a very big crush on me and its left me stunned. She was having a meal with my mum and two of my aunties (one of them is her ...
A. 22 June 2008: Well, first of all, I think your age differences would make a problem here. I can't imagine an 18 year old and a 24 year old having that much in common. There's a TON of maturity that happens within those 6 years. I mean, she's just starting her ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have an orgasm before ever having a period?
Q. Is it possible for a girl to have an orgasm before she's ever had a period?...
A. 22 June 2008: Absolutely. I have been having orgasms since before I can even remember (like 4 or 5), but I didn't get my first period until I was almost 13. ... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious?
Q. My man said he had to work this evening. When he returned home he acted strange, ran into the shower and then I was in his car, I found an empty box of 3 condoms. He said that they were not his and it must be the guy he gave a ride from work. I ...
A. 22 June 2008: Since I firmly believe in the expression "once a cheater, always a cheater," I'm going to have to say that his actions are VERY suspicious.
Your husband is up to something. The evidence against him is overwhelming. Confront him calmly and tell him... (read in full...)
The girl I love is leaving soon, how do I let her know?
Q. Look it's a really, really long story filled with pain and suffering - something I feel I created - but 2 weeks today I know I'm going to be going through a world of pain I know I can't handle. You can call me weak about it, but I'm insanely inf...
A. 21 June 2008: You're not weak. You have emotions and you embrace them. There's nothing "weak" about that. You're strong for accepting them.
Anyway, I say you just call this girl and talk to her for a bit. Try to open up some communication. If you love her this... (read in full...)
I love my husband but want my builder
Q. Hi Im confused! I am 21 and have always been very headstrong! 4 years ago i met a married man who i instantly fell for. I found out he wasnt happy in his marraige and made a play for him...it worked and i am now married to him! He worships the grou...
A. 21 June 2008: Sounds like you need to grow up a bit, my dear!
You're married. You took vows to be faithful to your husband - so uphold them! If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to realize that silly little crushes are now a thing of the past... (read in full...)
She might be pregnant what shall I do?
Q. There is a rumor going around school about my gf dumping me no one knows why but we think shes pregnant (we being me and my gf) I really love her and was gonna propose I already got the ring it was $1,487 which was all I could afford. I was ...
A. 13 June 2008: Um well...you need to ask her if the rumors are true or not. Only she knows the real answer. Then, you need to ask her why the relationship ended, and she needs to give you a clear answer. If the relationship is definitely over for her, then leave ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my boyfriend and his sexual carry-on!
Q. I'm fed up with my boyfriend and his sexual carry-on. We've been living together for almost a year and have sex only once every two months. To make matters worse, he is absolutely obsessed with porn. Every day after he comes home from work he spends ...
A. 13 June 2008: This man is not respecting you AT ALL! I must ask, why are you still with him?!
Your bf has a very serious case of porn addcition. He's looking at it at home for hours and I'm willing to bet he's looking at it at work too. There's really nothing ... (read in full...)
It's that time of year when the girls start exposing more flesh... Do they mind it when the boys start looking?
Q. It's that time of year in the northern hemisphere when girls' tops get a bit more revealing and boys start looking a bit more. So, sticking to the topic of hemispheres, how do girls feel when boys check out their boobs? Is it fun? Is more than ...
A. 11 June 2008: Personally, I hate when men stare at my chest. Just because I'm wearing a bikini that doesn't mean I want to be stared at. It's extremely rude and weird and scary and makes me feel very uncomfortable.
You can check out a random girl without ... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 11 June 2008: Seriously, you can DIE from ectopic pregnancies! And the death won't happen 5 or 10 years from now, it will happen in a matter of DAYS. You could already be close to that point!
This is a medical emergency and it needs to be treated! ... (read in full...)
I might be having a baby, but the "dad" is mean to me, should I tell the other guy who is nice to me that the baby is his?
Q. i had sex about 2 weeks ago and i think i missed my period... the dad treats me bad and only calls for sex. he knows i mite be having a baby but i know another guy who is better to me and i know he would make a good dad. should i just say its his ...
A. 6 June 2008: Don't lie. That's never a good option. Someone mentioned below something like "I wish we could pick the fathers of our children." Um, hello! We do! It's called choosing who you have sex with! But anyway, I agree that you're not at all rea... (read in full...)
My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 6 June 2008: The most important thing is to not force ANYTHING on your daughter. If she wants an abortion then you should absolutely support that decision. Really, that's the best option, but it's all up to her. Other people like to paint abortion as some ... (read in full...)
My husband is making me have too many children!
Q. I need some advice. I am 8 months pregnant with my 5th child. my other children are 7, 5, 4 and 18 months old. My husband works extremely long hours and spends every second week working in another state. I was done having children after our t...
A. 6 June 2008: Your husband is showing no consideration for your feelings. I don't know if he just doesn't understand or if he just doesn't care, but either way it's unacceptable. It's your body and you can do whatever you want with it. If you want birth control, ... (read in full...)
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