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writes:I am having hard time to find a girl for marriage. As of now i am not able find a girl whom i can get marrige. I really dont know how to contact with girls. I am working in a company and most of the time i spend in my company and at home. As i am in new city i really dont know how to make new contact with girls. Can anybody help me who can understand my problem.My family wants me to get married as i am already 27 year old. They have find some girls for me but i dont like any one of them, also i am not able to find a one for me :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): Suraj, I can tell you're speaking from the point of view of a culture that skips the whole dating and relationship phase. Basically you or your family find a woman, and the two of you might see pix of each other, meet, maybe have a conversation, and then marry, right? Only after that point do you actually get to know her. Well, truth be told, not to knock your culture, but that's a bad plan, ESPECIALLY in America. You'll be hard put to find a woman who'd want to marry you on the spot. They'll think you're crazy. Take a look around and see that we get to know someone, go on dates with them, and have them as a girlfriend for awhile, and then consider marriage.
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reader, Suraj +, writes (9 July 2008):
Suraj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the replying. I really appreicate.I will let you know once i find my better half
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): just a side note, when you meet a woman, make sure that you don't bring up the marriage thing too quickly. coming off as overly-anxious to marry can be a turn off on the dating scene. the other person feels like you don't want to marry them, you just want to be married. let the woman know that you are interested in her and who she is.
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reader, bday121  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Oh, I forgot to mention dating websites. Those are also very good for meeting people with similar interests.
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reader, bday121 +, writes (5 July 2008):
Since you work a lot and mostly hang out at home, I'd say the first thing you need to do is go somewhere where you can meet new people. Try fesivals or clubs or organizations; maybe some charities or places where you can volunteer? Since you're in a new city it shouldn't be hard to at least find some new people. You know, most likely every single place you go to has a single woman there. Restruants, grocery stores, movie theaters, the dry cleaners, wherever. Since you're looking for something serious, I'd recommend getting involved in something you really care about through a local organization...like a city council or environmentalist group or a religious organization. That way you'll be involved in something you care about, and if you meet a single woman there the two of you are guaranteed to have at least one thing in common.You're still very young and there's plenty of time left for you to get married. For now just try to enjoy getting out and meeting new people and dating. Date around for a while and you'll definitely find someone you like! There's women all around; I'm sure at least one of them would love to meet you! Just relax and take your time and the right girl will come to you. I find that when people stop looking they find exaclty what they want.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 July 2008):
Many big cities have professional companies that look to set you up with someone. I'm not talking about dating agencies but specialist marriage companies. They will ask about what kind of girl you want and find someone with the same views on life and a suitable background.
Either that or you just have to do it the old fashioned way and ask your friends to introduce you to people and date.
Good Luck!! xx
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