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writes:Hi..This guy i really like has started to ask me to send pictures of me in my underwear! I was really shocked as he claims he is still a virgin so i didnt think he would be into that sort of thing and when i ask him why he wants them he says its because im gorgeous and he really likes me!Is he just trying to use me for my body or is it because he genuinely likes me?What should i do?Please help!
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Don't send him any pictures!
How well do you know him? Are you absolutely positive that he's a virgin or is he talking out of his butt to get what he wants from you?
Don't do it; he could put those pictures up on Facebook, MySpace,or any other website, which would not only humiliate you but cause rumours and drama at school that you don't need.
As well as he can doctor those photos before posting them - for example, he can take your head...and put it on a naked woman's body.
Do you really want that to happen?
Tell him you're flattered that he would want pictures of you...But you would prefer to keep your clothes on.
xo
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reader, bday121  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Do NOT send him any pictures! Who knows what he'll do with them! He can put them on Myspace or facebook, show them to his entire school and family if he wants! People do some really sick things to hurt others. Please don't do it, you'll only regret it later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): He may really like you, but I would not send him any pictures of yourself...you don't know what he would do with them. He could show them to friends, put them on public internet sites, etc.. And whether or not he's a virgin, he probably does think you're gorgeous and wants to see pics of your body just like any other red blooded male.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not only the fact that he is a virgin that shocked me its because he just doesnt seem that kind of guy to just come out with something like that as he didnt even try to kiss me until about the 4th date!
So when he asked me to send pictures i was like excuse me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Just read your followup, 'after' I posted and all I have to state is...Smart girl!! Good luck and stay that way...
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reader, anathaniel  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 I'm inclined to agree with Joshman. DO NOT send hims any pics. They could very simply be trophies that he's collecting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Of course...Yes, he is manipulating you and he isn't being genuine. He's a guy who has to learn a few lessons about respect for females. Any guy who genuinely likes you and is a person of character.. would not be asking you for pictures of you in your underwear. He's pulling a fast one on you. Tell him no. Next, he will want semi-nude and so on. It could get worse. I would be very, very cautious around this young man. In fact, you should tellhim a flat out NO. He will one of two things. He will immediately respect you for being strong and taking a stand against him...or he will not be interested in you, anymore. But, whatever he does, don't forget that he showed a less admirable personality trait, by asking you to do this in the first place. Never allow guys to use you like this. and remember, pictures can be scanned and sent via the internet and email....everywhere! Do NOT even think to do it this way, unless you want it all over cyber space. Good luck and walk away from this situation with pride intact. I don't care how much a guy tells you he likes you..don't sell yourself short to the lowest bidder just to have some jerk's attention. Wait for a fellow who treats you like a queen. He'll be so worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comments and i dont think i shall send one now!
He could show it to anyone!
And that would horrible!
You have encouraged me to make the right decision i dont think ill bother with that boy again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): i would probably not do the pictures, if he is really interested it won't change his mind. i think there is plenty of time for that when your more sure. you asked so that in itself means you aren't sure. this is my perspective in the end it is your life.
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reader, Joshman +, writes (24 June 2008):
I'm sure he likes you but I wouldn't give him the pictures. Even with the best will in the world, a teenage boy is still too immature not to keep the pics to himself, especially a virgin. Sooner or later he will show them to his friends. You'll find out about it, scream and shout at him and to get back at you, he'll post them on the web. Happens all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): i agree with smiles. if you don't want others seeing your pink/whatever-colored undies, i wouldn't do it.
also, how long have you two been in a relationship together? i think that counts, too--if'n your wondering if he's asking cuz he likes YOU or just your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Vow, I suggest you be really carefull about this; whatever his reason, no matter what he is telling you;
How do you know what he might altimately do with it; he can show it to friends; put it on facebook; sell it magazines;
I suggest you think very carefully; yes it might be very flattering; but trust me you will not feel so happy if he sends this to others by emails or text;
I suggest you DON'T do it!
Best wishes!
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