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writes:ok alot of people i kno that is my age are having sex. Nobody pressures me into it cuz they already kno rite off the back i would curse them out lol. But im starting to ask myself wat does it feel like when you have sex because i'm so curious. should i feel ashamed about being curious about sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (29 June 2008):
 It's good to be curious, or else you won't find things out!
I talk to my Mum about sex and she is just glad that i'm interested and that I know how to be safe and protected.
Jelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): No. Definatly not. Don't feel ashmaed for wanting to know about new things or wondering what certain things are like. It's natural and EVERYONE does it... In lost of situations including sex.
Don't feel ashamed. :)
And may I add that you are a very brave girl for not letting people presure you into anything. Well done.
Emivia. x
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (28 June 2008):
 Do you think that your friends are actually having sex?
I always remember loads of questions like "Do you know what ... means?" etc. Doesn't mean that they know from first hand experience. Could be they have older sibling or cousin in the know?
It is natural to be curious, so don't worry about that. Far better than being naiive, I reckon.
However I agree there is no rush, and don't even think about it just yet.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 June 2008):
 no you shouldnt feel bad that you are curious, but i dont think kids your age should be having sex. your bodies are not matured enough yet neither fully developed. curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back-- that doesnt mean you should have sex but it means that dont worry about being curious..but please wait till you are older i had sex when i was 16 and i regret it now because i want to share it with the one person thats ment for me and not every man i think may love me..hope that helps aphex x
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reader, bday121  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 It's perfectly ok to be curious. You're at the age when your peers start talking about sexual things, and it's totally fine to be interested in sex. However, it's NOT ok to be having sex at your age. Props on being able to say no and not be pressured! Just keep that healthy attitude, because many people will pressure you in the near future, whether directly or indirectly. Stay strong and wait until you're completely ready for sex. You'll be thankful if you do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Well, you seem to realise that for you, having sex is wrong and that's a very good start.
I get the impression that a lot of people your age do sex just because they can, maybe it makes them feel grown-up, much like underage smoking did in 'my day'.
Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong in being curious about sex and is nothing to be ashamed of. Over the next few years, you will get to know your body more and more as you physically and mentally develop. Eventually, you will know when it is 'right' to have sex (I prefer to call it 'make love')with someone - you will instinctively know.
In the meantime, stick to your guns, ask questions from responsible people (hopefully us!) and enjoy your innocence and youth.
Good luck and take care. (From the father of a daughter)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Sweetheart, no, its not a bad thing to be feeling curious about sexual experiences, though I am confident that you know the potentially harmful results of begining a sexual relationship at your age. Sex, like many other things in life, cannot be explained in a paragraph, and is a special connection between two people, emotionally and physically. Honestly, at your age, you really shouldn't be worrying about it, though its okay that you're curious; many people your age are. HOwever..... if you really want more info, do you have a trusted adult to ask firsthand??? xxcoco
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