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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my fiance for 1 year now and i have tried to tell him that the way he acts around other girls makes me feel like he doesnt care how i feel or if it hurts me but he does it anyways, what am i supposed to do? I love him and i dont want to leave him but im not sure what to do anymore.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (13 December 2009):
This is one of those sorts of issues we all tend to make some pretty basic mistakes with when we're young. You refer to him as your Finace', and so I assume we're hearing the echos of wedding bells coming down the line.
Were I you, I would put the engagement on hold until you figure something out.
The basic fact is that is is a mistake of the highest order to marry who you think your partner will become, because they won't. He is who he is, and if you cannot get him to behave more repsectfully before you're married, then you won't be able to do so after either.
I would say that you need to have a frank, honest discussion with him. Let him know that his behavior bothers you, makes you feel disrespected and hurt. If he cannot put forth enough effort to dampen that down a great deal, and pay proper respect to both the female gender in general, and the woman he professes to love and value in specific, then you need to cut him loose and find someone more repsectful.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 You question lacks a little detail, but if he is hurting you and you have let him know his actions hurt but he is not taking any notice then you need to decide if that is what you want for the rest of your life, your profile lists your age as 18 to 21 so, assuming you are both going to live to about 78 thats about another 57 years of being hurt.
The decision is yours, but if he isnt taking any notice of your feelings now, what makes you think he will in another six months or 12 months or 2 years or 10 or 20 years?
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