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writes:hey aunts i have a problem with jelousy but it isnt with my boyfriends its with guys i fancy, all my friends have noticed well its kind of hard not to because if i say the guy i like (lets call him chris)is fit and they agree i will literally rip their throat out, like one time my friend said she liked a guy i liked aswell and i hit her and said "fuck off hes mine!" i dont mean to be so violent it just happens!, all my friends are really scared of agreeing with me now and i think it might have something to do with the fact im quite self-concious and i dont like the idea of going up against my friends because they're all so much prettier than me and im never the girl who gets the guy im always the friend or the admirer i dont want to be that girl is there anything i can do to stop all these violent feelings and bring up my confidence so i dont feel like im never going to win against my friends plz help x x x x
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 I am surprised you have any friends when you treat them like this. They are merely making an observation that in no way neccessarily indicates a threat to you. They have eyes, they can see, yet they are the one's under threat for being able to use them. Learn to keep your fists to yourself. How would you like it if someone hit you because you admired a person they had already noticed? Hardly right that one is punished for anothers insecurity is it?
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (11 December 2009):
 YOU, young lady, need a reality check. Violence in any way, shape or form is totally unacceptable.
Your excuses dont wash. I am surprised your friends still allow you to be in their company. THe only way to stop this is to change your behaviour.
Sometimes it does feel that we are always the girl that doesnt get noticed,but eventually we usually do, however, your behaviour will get you noticed, but for all the wrong reasons, what sort of boy would be interested in a girl who beats up on their friends??
Just stop finding lame excuses for your very bad behaviour, grow up and stop justifying your actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): You have a boyfriend, seriously you shouldn't be getting so posessive over other boys, plus these boys you aren't going to go after yourself as you have a boyfriend? (You said something about that) Stop hitting your friends! Otherwhise you won't have any
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