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writes:My husband wants me to be his master during sex and domineer him using my imagination for the things I want him to do but my imagination does'nt seen to want to play what can I do? He has wanted this for years and I don't seem to be able to get it right. Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (8 February 2011):
 just think of the most selfish bossy part of you and grow inside by feeling selfish thoughts, then domineering will come. its a mindset-become your most greedy, moody, selfish parts in the bedroom and then it will work like a charm
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Many men like to be submissive in bed... they are in charge in the world so they prefer to be dominated in bed.
My 6'4" hubby is like this. I am 5'2"
one of the things we discovered quite by accident one day was when I sit on top of him (and he's lying down on his back) and I straddle him, if I lean over and pin his hands above his head at the wrists with my hands, he finds that very arousing...
If you've not been assertive in bed, perhaps you could lead him to bed, push him down on the bed and just take charge... nothing "kinky" just you making the moves and the rules... tell him what to do... see how that goes...
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reader, aunty anoymous +, writes (8 February 2011):
Hi there, to be domineering you need to have confidence, be in charge and take the initiative. If you do too much reading and research it kind of takes your imagination out of it. I would suggest you imagine that it's your turn to get what you want, he is there to pleasure you any way you want, you tell him what you want and how you want it, he's your sex slave and it's all about you. If you lack confidence level the field, blindfold him, maybe losely tie his hands, remember you are in charge, if he doesn't please you tell him off.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I don't blame you for your confusion, "Abnormal" things confuse us all. hang in there..if it still doesn't work out find him a boyfriend.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Read novels and stories written about submissives and masters, it will give you inspiration and maybe you find that it turns you on as well.
Places to go would be any blog or online forum for those who are into S&M, or search the stories on places like adultfanfiction.net
Find the inspiration, then get creative.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I would suggest you look up this site, and get a copy of this magazine. They will have the information you need, and they are a very reliable and clean source:
http://www.tabmag.com/
It is a magazine that caters to fetish and BDSM and will lead you to other resources for you to learn to be a dom. Depending where you live, it might even lead to other people in your area that would be able to help you directly.
-Frank
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reader, auntieloulou +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Take it a small step at a time, don't jump into the deep end. Try first of all by demanding him to do sexual favours for you, be confident and in control and don't take no for an answer. tell him what you want, how you want it and he will love it. be controlling and demanding and tell him forcefully what you want him to do to you.
Also try watching domineering porn, either with your husband or alone. This should give you lots of ideas of what to do.
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