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writes:I been having this problem for almost 3 years, its about me and my husband. We used to be sexually active when we were bf and gf but, when we got married we hardly had any sex at all. He tried getting me pregnant but with no luck. So everytime i ask him, he gives me the tired excuse or his just not in the mood for it. There are few times i catch him watching porn either on his phone or on the computer. I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel like I'm the problem because i can't give him a baby or his just not into me anymore. Its so frustrating that his given up and doesn't want to keep trying. I fear that he might end up cheating on me or worse leave me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): To be honest with you, I get the feeling that he wouldn't have stayed with you for three years if he didn't want to be with you. Sorry to say, but yes he may be cheating, this is statisctically a 1.03% chance.
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reader, auntieloulou  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 I don't necessarily agree with the previous answer...I think that you can still be turned on by the same person for many years. Maybe the fact that your husband and you failed to conceive has made him self conscious that he is not able to give you a baby, and thats why you don't have sex anymore. He may feel insecure about it, you think he's won't have sex with you because you did not get pregnant but maybe hes annoyed at himself and his procreating abilities? I can't tell you the answer to it, you need to ask your husband. Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. If it still does not work maybe you should try couple counseling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): unfortunately men need visual stimulus. They may love you but get easily bored with the same image. Its biological, men and women are only suppose to stay together long enough to procreate, usually 4 years and move on. Some men simply cannot remain turned on by one woman, as sad as it seems they have not evolved from primitive times, others can separate emotional and physical and their emotion for one woman can trigger a response to only be with her. Goodluck
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