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writes:I met my co-worker by coincidence. He tapped me on the shoulder. He put his hand out to shake his hand. Then, we looked eye and eye and reached his arm over for a half hug with a gentle squueze. I patted him on the back. Since then, I can't get over him. Did this hug mean something more than friends? I can't believe he hugged me in front of his kids and wife. He told people at work he saw me. What is your opinion, please?Thanks
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reader, Gabbystar +, writes (12 February 2011):
Gabbystar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I meant by "He told people at work he saw me," was that he made it a point to tell my boss and co-workers that he saw me at the game and that he was surprised I was friends with a particular co-worker. He is going through a divorce, which is why I found it odd that he shook hands and hugged me in front of his wife and kids. When I asked about his family who was present, he avoided them and focused on me quickly. He didn't even introduce them. When we parted ways, I pointed at him to tell my friend who he was and he waved back at me and came over to talk to us. Again, leaving his wife and kids behind.Thank you all for your advice. It helps. I am a bit confused because I am getting mixed signals with this guy.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (11 February 2011):
 It doesn't sound like anything more than a friendly gesture. Especially since he did it in front of his wife and children. I am confused by one thing you wrote. What did you mean when you said, "He told people at work he saw me"?
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reader, lucy.whittaker  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Hey,I really wouldn't take it to mean so much. It's nice that you have a friend at work, but he has a wife and kids and a hug does NOT mean he's in love with you. This wasn't an indication that he likes you any more than as a friend, and I would be very careful about letting yourself think otherwise. It will only hurt you and damage the professional relationship you have with your colleague.Good Luck,Lucy XxX
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reader, auntieloulou +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Always remember this man has a family, no matter what. Has he done anything else to suggest he likes you? It was probably a platonic hug, he may see you as a good friend. maybe he was trying to make his wife jealous, maybe he's just a guy who likes to hug people! you never know, but don't dwell on this. the last thing you want to do is move forward with it, he's a married man and that should be end of story.
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