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writes:I'm a 13 boy who goes to a really small school in mass.iv'e had 2 girlfriends in the past 2 years and they both ended in heartbreak. My relationships i had before were always so dramatic and romantic at the same time. I'm one of those helplessly romantic shy guys thats almost always to shy to ask a girl out.Anyways long story short my question is basically this,Is it a bad idea to ask out a girl thats younger than me who has never dated before.I really really like her and she is like the sweetest, cutest, funniest, smartest, most beautiful girl i have ever seen. The main problem is that I'm in 8th grade and she is in 7th. I don't think that dating a girl who is only 1 year younger is weird but their are still some problems.she has never dated anyone before, I never talked to her before this year and one of her friends strongly dislikes me. I'm actually asking multiple questions right nownumber 1: should i ask her out?number 2: How should i ask her out if i do?number 3: should i confront her friend who dislikes me?number 4: How long do i wait before i ask her out?In regaurds to question 4 i have known her since 1st grade but i never talked to her until about 4 months ago.i have talked to her everyday since we met (or at least almost everyday.)
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reader, nikida656 +, writes (28 February 2011):
nikida656 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i totally agree with you and thnx for the hints I'm glad to find someone with the same thing going on
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Well I just came across this post today so I am not shure when this was posted or if things have changed.
I am in 8th grade and I like a 7th grader who is kinda short but apparently thats an upside for me because im tall and that's also considered a "turn on"
Ok so shes never dated before what i;m doing is im getting to noe her i bumped into her now and then bt then i finally asked her for her name. Yep as u probably imagined she asked for mine as well. now im getting to noe her not like being a "creeper" and following her around. but when i do see her i smile and say hey. that did the trick cuz now she looks for me. so since i noe she has no dating experience she probably is expecting to be asked by phone or note or by her friend. I am confident and by doing any of those 3 above it would say as me not being confident at all and i also noe if its a rejection i hear to not insist bt i like to make it stick in her head by asking the question "why" then leaving the conversation open. thats probably not such a good idea but its worked fine for me in the past and lets hope it works again as a plan 'b'
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reader, nikida656 +, writes (10 February 2011):
nikida656 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea if u would like i keep this post up to date.and i havn't asked her yet.i dont know when i will either.im going to try to really get to know her well and express my feelings for her before i ask her out.
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (10 February 2011):
 You are completely right. Sometimes it doesn't take hundreds to know. Don't pass this one up kiddo, go with what your heart is telling you and hopefully things will fall into place. Always be open and willing to give things a chance. :) if you don't mind me asking, will you leave updates about the situation? Have you asked her yet/ when do you plan to? (If you haven't yet, don't overthink it)
-newbie
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reader, nikida656 +, writes (3 February 2011):
nikida656 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnx a bunch for the help!!!! in regaurds to something u said newbie i just wanted to say thnx for the advice but im scared that if she is the right one for me out of those hundreds of girls and i pass up the offer i will regret it for the rest of my life
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Nikida656,
Love at your age is so unstable and unpredictable. Having 2 girlfriends in 2 years isn't a good sign. It means you fall deeply too early and end up with drama and early teen heart break. Trust me, i've been there. The next girl you meet is more amazing than the last, you feel since you are getting older and maturing that you should have a girlfriend and a relationship. Truth is, are you really ready? Yes you may have feelings now, but you are still just growing up! You'll meet hundreds of girls before you can decide who is for you. If you desperately want this relationship, kindly ask her out (age isn't an issue, just prepare for some teasing from immature peers) but bear in mind that this will probably not last long and end the same as the other relationships. Want to know why? 1 you both are young. 2 first relationships aren't meant to last forever, they just dip your feet in the huge pond of wonders. Don't confront her friend, she has nothing to do with your or this girl's. Feeling for one another. If she doesn't like you then its her problem, as long as you aren't mean. If you talk to her everyday by choice, when your dating this might feel like a chore, like you have to unless you're upset. Most kids your age get too attached and think you need to worship eachother, which isn't the case. Going out isn't just talking to in between classes every other day. You should communicate over the phone and actually spend physical time together outside of school. And if this all works out for you, absolutely for no reason should you kiss this girl. Its a new relationship so she might be confused and blinded by love. Kissing her like this will only confuse her, its her first boyfriend and that may be too fast for some girls. Just make sure you communicate with her and make sure she is comfortable at all times.
hope this has helped kikida :)
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reader, auntieloulou  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 If you like someone go for it. Your both very young so don't over think things or rush anything. Start by making it obvious that you like her, talk to her lots and ask her questions. Get to know her and let her get to know you before you ask her out. If her friends do not like you don't worry, she would be dating you and not her friends. if you feel that her friends are affecting her choices than maybe approach them lightly and ask them (politely) what problems they have with you. good luck!
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