A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months now, and I have a question for everyone. When we first met, she was interested in a good friend of mine. However, after getting to know eachother, she decided she wanted me. Based on having similar thoughts and goals, plus she was attracted to me. I am 3 years older than her, she's the same age as my friend. I was a little thrown off by this, because I questioned her intentions. I have a car, and all that. On top of that, I'm more available. The problem is, I feel like she's still attracted to him. Whenever we're all around eachother, she will often pay more attention to him. They will try to sit by eachother, mimic eachother jokingly, and seem to click more than me and her. She is the type who flirts with her guy friends, which he is to her. I don't think my friend would do anything, but I can't help to wonder. She texts him daily, and always trys to get him to hangout with us. He's naturally a offbeat, funny, but sometimes annoying guy. I get annoyed, but it seems she can't get enough. She will still try for alone time with me, and we show alot of affection.. which shows me that I'm the one she wants, but I sometimes feel like I'm being used. She tells me she likes me alot, and she doesn't feel I feel the same. I like her alot, but I feel she doesn't truly like me sometimes!? Am I being paranoid, or is my gut telling me something?
View related questions:
am I being paranoid, flirt, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): Dude,
I hate to break it to you. If she's focusing more on this other fella and you are consistently feeling like the third wheel of that dog and pony show she's dishign out.
PunkyPippi's right, go with your gut. She's more into him.
No one likes being used, and in relationships--especially this one--communication is needed. Tell her something isn't right. For heaven's sake don't just leave the gut feeling there...because even if you do nothing the "gut feeling" will eventually rot this relationship.
Good luck, buddy.
A
female
reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Go with your gut. She's trying to make your friend jealous so he'll realize what he could have with her (hence the three of you hanging out)...young girls can be insensitive, and you sound like a decent and mature guy.
...............................
|
