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*upcakes
writes:Dear cupid. I have a bit of a dilemma. There is a boy who's 16. I went out with him a while ago. But we split because he wanted sex and I wasn't ready. Anyway a few months down the line he has asked me out saying he will go really slow this time. I said no. He has asked me out 24 times since then I keep on saying no. I really like him but I can't really trust him as he had an afair when I was with him last. What do I do? Do I say yes and have a niggle in the back of my every time we kiss. Or say no and forget him..... Reply to this Question
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reader, Cupcakes +, writes (18 January 2009):
Cupcakes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers guys!:-) your right im only 14 and ive got a lot to live for! My friends all say the same. Thanks for taking the time and i hope to help you some time!!!!
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reader, cherie38 +, writes (18 January 2009):
this guy was sixteen and had an affair? think you need to forget him and concentrate on yourself! am assuming that your only a chicken yourself? do a bit of living before entering into a relationship hun x
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 That niggle won't go if you go out with him, in fact, I'd say it would get worse.
I think you should just tell him straight "You lost all chances of being with me when you cheated on me. If you keep nagging me to go out with you, you'll push me away even further. So I'm going to ask you to stop asking me now because I've made up my mind and I'm sorry, but it's a no."
Hun, if you go out with him, you'll be constantly worried whenever he looks at his phone or whenever you're not with him... trust me, I've been there. It's a horrid place to be. And by being with him, your affection for him will grow and you'll be in a worse situation than if you were to not be with him and not feel the hurt should he cheat on you again.
To be honest sweet, he sounds very creepy! If he doesn't stop hassling you tell a teacher or a parent because it's really not fair on you.
This is just my opinion, but I would ask you not to put yourself in a situation where he'll be able to hurt you even more than he has in the past.
I hope I helped a bit :)
xx
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