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writes:A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks.This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often the three of us would hang out.So this guy sits me down a few days ago and tells me that he's always fancied my house mate. My house mate slept with him last night despite knowning how I felt about this guy.My house mate is moving interstate in less than a month so it's not like it's able to go anywhere. I feel angry and hurt by the two of them, am I being over sensitive? Did my house mate do something wrong? He seems to think what he did was fine. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sisyphus +, writes (19 January 2009):
Sisyphus is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Pastfirst, I must have been very unclear. I have no romantic feelings for my housemate, my feelings are for someone else that I was seeing until my housemate slept with him.
Griffo - Don't sweat the personal pronouns mate.
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reader, pastfirst  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 It's all for the best that your housemate is moving out.
I don't hink there's any point in continuing your friendship with him if you feel romantically attracted to him in any way. It doesn't look as if he sees you as more than a friend.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Sorry, I meant he.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 January 2009):
If he knew the housemate for five years, maybe in the past they had something going on that you may not know the full details about. Plus if you started chasing him and made it known to them, then maybe the housemate realized what she was missing out on and went in to take him.
Personally, i think there was some spark with the housemate far longer than he new you as he said "He always fancied her".
But the good thing is she's going away, and it's likely it wont continue, unless they are really good friends. The best thing i can say is to just be strong ignore it and just be his friend. Fancy him but don't tell him or make it obvious for a while. Thats if you still want him.
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reader, Sisyphus +, writes (18 January 2009):
Sisyphus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi JakeI don't seem to have explained the situation very well. They both knew how I felt about this guy. Nor was I playing 'hard to get,' or being aloof. Also, it's not the guy I like that's moving, it's my housemate.
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reader, JakeNosis +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Just because you hung out with the guy doesn't mean he liked you. Or perhaps he did like u but where being too aloof, too hard to get. So he moved on to someone that wasn't so slow to advance. Like you said, he was moving and didn't have time to wait for you to "evaluate" him. That's what you get for being slow.Now next time put-out more easily and you won't get hurt.
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