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writes:I hate my boyfriend!!!!! We have been together for coming upto 5 years, we have a 1 year old little girl. He drives me insane, everything he does is totally annoying Im sure half of it he does on purpose surely no human being can possibly be that dumb and irritating!!! The stupid thing is Ive always know it was never going to last Ive had a couple of weeks here and there where I think...yeah....this is good but then he starts with his pointless, stupid ways again!!!He sits there going on and on about tiny insignificant things that totally dont interest me and then when I try talking he just looks straight through me and watches tele!!!Since having baby he's been good he gave up work to look after her so I could carry on with college but he still moans about it all the time!!!We're just on total different wave lengths, he's just so dumb, I know this isnt his fault but knowing that still doesnt make me hate him any less!!!I dont know why I cant break away, its not that Im scared to be single, its just I dont know how to be without him. When I tell him he says that he feels the same way but when we went on a temp break he still stayed at my house every night and things were good, but then when we officially got back together everything went tits up again.Then....he broke up with me....and I asked him not to go!!! So he didnt and now I have no idea why I did that!!!What the hell is wrong with me???????????????????????Friends at college are single and have babies so I know it can be done and its not that hard. But every time it comes to proper breaking up, I cant go through with it and all I think about is the good times and the good times we wont have if hes not there!!!Is anyone else in this situation??? Or has been???I just need some advice on what to do. Should I stay??Should I go??Will I regret it???Or will it be the best thing I ever did???So many questions....whys life so god damn complicated, why cant things just be simple!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): Girl,
It sounds like youre dating a real prick. I know its hard because you have his baby. You may not want to admit how much this baby ties you down to him, but thats just you standing up for him because pricks ALWAYS have to be stood up for. Leave him. 'He stares right through you at the tele'????? NO. Do not settle for that. This is as good as it gets baby. You're not even in for marriage yet. Leave while you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for people getting back to me so quickly.
lol lol lol thats all i can say, i didnt even realise i was mad until reading my question back!!!!
i understand what you mean about staying together for the sake of little legs but i cant see that being the best thing in the long run.....two unhappy parents raising a child cant produce a good outcome!!!!
i just cant bring myself to let go even though i know it will end eventually.
thanks for your answers x
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 It kind of sounds like you're really mad right now about something he's done. I'm sure you don't walk around with all that rage pent up all the time...
Do you want to live the rest of your life this way? It's HARD living with someone and being married/having kids. It's easier when you share common interests, so maybe the two of you need to remember what brought you together in the first place.
Either way he seems like a decent guy who's always going to be in your life because of your child. You'll have to figure out some way to deal with him.
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reader, Mr frosty +, writes (18 January 2009):
i think you should leave him. if he treats you like dirt than just leave, and find a guy who is way better to you than him, and also financially stable. (my mom recently married a man who wasnt financially stable who was great to her and said he was going to do amazing things that were going to help people.) and now they are getting a divorse,he had been using his money to buy pot, and had been pushing and shoving her around, and grabbing her. partially because of stress caused by not having enough money/not handling it well.
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