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Archived questions from: October, 2015 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

What can I do? I just can't handle watching her love someone else.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3345 days ago

31 October 2015 (F) - my ex-best friend / ex-lover and i had a very complicated 7 year bisexual relationship. I was her shameful secret and i always felt rejected, used and humiliated. she treated me bad and always flaunted different relationships she had with others ...

No matter what I do, the face of this other guy keeps on intruding into my thoughts. How can I stop this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

29 October 2015 (F) - I choose to figure out what went wrong with my marriage that had led me to have an emotional affair with this guy, other than the fact that my husband and I are incompatible. I'd like to believe that I had actually loved him and that I still ca...

How do I cope with their arguing and nasty comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3345 days ago

29 October 2015 (F) - I have just had a massive argument with my ex and his wife and I don't know what to do. I split up with him nearly 5 years ago and we have two children together. We share custody and after they have been to see him I pick them up from a child min...

He wants our son to meet his new girlfriend. But he's imposing restrictions on our son's contact with my boyfriend. How can I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3348 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles, ive got a question what would you do in this situation. I was with my ex for five years, we had a child together. We got back together but in this time I didn't realise he had met someone else. He had moved away and would...

Why is this happening now? Two years later? Now I'm plagued with dreams that remind me of his affair

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3346 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - hi everyone. Some advice would be great. Cut a long story short my partner had an affair nearly two years ago now. We had been together for four years at the time, we both weren't happy and then I found out the reason why- he had had a six week a...

I'm in a new relationship and want to know if I should tell him about sleeping with my ex when we were just starting to date?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3346 days ago

27 October 2015 (F) - Hello, I am in a new relationship which is going so well and I am extremely happy, when I first dated this man I was still in contact with my ex on a civil level or as friends as most would say, I went on a few dates with this new man and didn't ...

I am comparing every man to my ex. How can I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

27 October 2015 (F) - About seven months ago, my boyfriend of three years broke up with me completely out of the blue. There were no warning signs whatsoever so it really rocked me. We had been living together for two years and were about to move into a new house and he ...

Why these feeble attempts to contact me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

26 October 2015 (F) - I left my ex due to feeling taken for granted and when I brought that up I was blamed for trying to mess up the relationship. At that point I understood that he was not afraid to lose me. With all feelings for him still in my heart I broke up w/him. ...

Do I stand a chance of winning my ex back? if so, how do I win her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3348 days ago

26 October 2015 (M) - Me and my ex girlfriend broke up last year November few days after my birthday. Though the relationship lasted for just only one month but I must tell you that has been my best relationship so far. I felt love for the very first time and am sure ...

Part of me wants to make my ex fall in love with me again

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3350 days ago

26 October 2015 (F) - It's been over 2 years since I last saw or talked to him. He wasn't my first love. We started dating when we were 16. But.. I broke up with him because of our mutual friend. She was saying that I ruined our friendship. That because of me, s...

Verbally abused and hurt and confused and now he won't take my phone calls

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3350 days ago

25 October 2015 (F) - hurt and confused,I been verbally abuse by my man sam,accused of everthing,Sam start argument and move out for two weeks,i secretly voice record him,what I heard sound like he was snorting meth or coke, when I ask him,he said he sick of this ...

I do not want to be hurt again by my first love. Any words of wisdom, please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

25 October 2015 (F) - I have not long met up again with my first love. It was passionate buthe ended up really hurting me. We separated for over 20yrs and I have a grown family. We linked again a few months ago and the chemistry was still there. A few months later be...

I'm stuck on an ex..how do I get over it and realize we are over?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3352 days ago

24 October 2015 (F) - Hi. I have been going through this since long and I just don't know what to do about it. I dated a guy for 5 years. He was my first love, first kiss, first everything. . We were really close, made each other so happy and had an amazing connection. I ...

How do I tell the girl I'm dating that my female room mate is actually my ex wife?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3351 days ago

24 October 2015 (M) - Hi, well I met this girl two times, we are going out again, , I wonder when should I let her know, I have a woman roommate, but the thing, about it is, my room mate is my ex wife, we have teenager, I have custody, we are just friends, you see she is ...

Would my ex treat me as he did when we were younger?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3352 days ago

23 October 2015 (F) - I met up with my first love after he came to me in a dream. I sent him a message via Facebook and said it was nice to see him even if it was just in my dream. He demanded to link with me after over 15 years of not seeing and took me out for ...

My ex's new girlfriend is out to get me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3353 days ago

22 October 2015 (F) - Since my ex split up with me back in March and went straight with another woman, this girl has done nothing but try and wind me up. Ive let them get on with things, I never publicly slated her or tried to split them up even though on this inside I ...

The ex and a FWB relationship. I want her to be honest with me and not jerk me around!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

22 October 2015 (M) - Okay, so thank you all for reading and responding, I truly appreciate it. Okay, so what I'm going through is not a huge deal but I do not want to make it into a big deal. Some information about me: I am 21, senior at college. So basically, my ex gi...

My husband has cheated on me and I'm not sure if I should have children or even stay in this marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3355 days ago

21 October 2015 (F) - My husband and I got married 5 years ago. We rushed into marriage after a year of LDR, during which I found out he had a 3 year old kid with somebody else. I believed him telling me he had no relationship with the mother of his child (Ana). A couple ...

Why does the girl who ran off with my ex manage to get under my skin?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3355 days ago

19 October 2015 (F) - How do I cope with the girl who ran off with my man? She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to get back at me and her ex. I try not to look anymore and most times I don't - but from time to time I see images w...

I've moved on, but maybe he hasn't?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3357 days ago

19 October 2015 (F) - We broke up about 6 months ago and we go to the same uni. Basically he strung me along in the summer asking for a break but ultimately i broke up with him and he accepted without a fight. I cut contact with him and pass him almost everyday in the ...

My boyfriend's ex is sending me screenshots about him cheating! Help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3357 days ago

18 October 2015 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now. He has a kid with another girl. I love him so much and thought he was the one until tonight whenI got a bunch of screenshots of texts from his kid's mom about them hooking up. Apparently they ...

Why would he "like" a picture of her on facebook?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3358 days ago

18 October 2015 (F) - My fella is separated from his wife and lives apart, but yesterday I saw a photo in of his wife on Facebook with her friends and he pressed " like" on it....I was a bit stunned, why would he want to do that? Should I be worried? ...

I broke up with her and have some regrets.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3357 days ago

17 October 2015 (M) - I will try to make this short. I am 28 years old and recently got out of 5 years serious LTR(lived in together for 5 years). Problem is I was never very much in love with her to start with. I deeply cared about her but never felt that attraction ...

Why does my boyfriend look in porn for women who look like his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3359 days ago

16 October 2015 (F) - Why did he tell me he always looked for porn of women who looked like his ex yet when I asked him if he ever did that with me whilst we are apart ( LDR) he said he did only once . It makes me feel very unattractive to him when we can't be together ...

His ex had big boobs. I have tiny boobs. What chance is there that I can overcome my insecurities over this?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3356 days ago

16 October 2015 (F) - I just don't know how to feel? My BF and I have an on an off again relationship when we first started I wasn't ready to settle down, yet even though at that time he deserved it. He was so sweet and 100% everything I wanted in a man but I was mu...

It sounds to me as if he's attracted to me emotionally, but more attracted to his ex physically. What do you think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3360 days ago

My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3330 days ago

14 October 2015 (F) - I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...

How should I deal with this ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3362 days ago

14 October 2015 (F) - This one is a bit complicated, so I would call my recent ex Number 1 and the ex whom I am with now (my present bf) to be Number 2. Number 1 and me dated for a month and then were together in a relationship (quite intense, definitely non-Plat...

My ex is a nice guy. But I love another. How do I get my ex to honor my request to cut all ties?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3362 days ago

14 October 2015 (F) - Hi, I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years but things came crumbling down because he wanted to settle down and I loved him but I was not "in love" with him to marry him and I did not see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I ...

I'm falling for my boyfriend so why why why am I feeling like this about my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3362 days ago

13 October 2015 (F) - Thiz is a very stupid question but how can I stop feeling bad for dumping my ex? I'm in a great relationship now but I just imagine how bad he's feeling and get upset. He was trying not to cry when we broke up and so was I! We were on and off for ...

Is my husband remorseful for what he did?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3361 days ago

12 October 2015 (F) - My husband had an affair 3 yrs ago, it's been a very difficult recovery process for me since- I offered forgiveness and he lied and continued communication with her for 3 months after discovery-told many other lies and till this day hasn't given me ...

Why would he contact me in the first place, offering himself as a friend or whatever, and then never call and ignore my message?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3360 days ago

12 October 2015 (F) - I'm totally confused and need some advice. I dated a guy a few months back. We were incredibly close. We were emotionally, physically and intellectually intimate. Long story short - he fell in love with someone else and now they're together. Living ...

Sporadic texts received. Why does he do this? Does he like me, still?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3365 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - I don't understand why someone would sporadically contact someone ? A while back I got close to a male friend but he hadn't finished things properly with who he was with It fractured the friendship and we didn't talk for nearly a year but th...

Why does he only text me during the weekdays? not the weekends??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3366 days ago

10 October 2015 (F) - Wtf! okay once i'm sorry for asking so much advice but :( i need advice aunts. My ex boyfriend and I are talking again and we are not going out officially but he only texts me/calls me/video chats me on the weekdays (btw we live 6 hours away fro...

Ghost of Bf's sexual past invading current relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3364 days ago

9 October 2015 (F) - So I've been with the boyfriend just under a year. Recently found out that one of his friends (a girl) who he has known since he was a teenager (he's approaching 40) he slept with two years ago (after his his birthday party). Very drunk affair- he ...

Ex flashing new life in my face

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3368 days ago

8 October 2015 (F) - My ex and I were together for 7 years and broke up but remained friends, that was two years ago since the break up and we remained friends since. We lived together, no children, but two cats. The relationship broke up because I wanted to be fre...

We never have sex and now another guy is interested in me! What do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3370 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - In a bit of a dilema! i currently have a boyfriend and hes lovely hes sweet thoughtful and really in love with me, the only thing is we barely ever have sex, ive repeatidly told him about this and yeah yeah ill change i havnt brought it up for ...

Do new couples usually have so many fall outs?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3370 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - Is it normal for a new couple to split up and get back together on a regular basis? My ex can be quite controlling and self centred. He also can have a short fuse from time to time. I notice (from comments on social media and friends etc) tha...

He doesn't want to hurt the feelings of his ex?? Is that a poor excuse to give to the new Gf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3370 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - This is the scenario: Guy breaks up with his girlfriend of a few years. They remain friends. They start hanging out and talking on the phone as soon as a few weeks after break up. A few months later, he dates someone new. A new girl he appears ...

I'd like my son to connect with his father and grandparents. Would sending a letter to the grandparents be acceptable?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3361 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - Basically I had a fling several years ago and got pregnant ... we barely knew each other so I can't blame the father for ditching me the moment i said "baby". I let him go. It has been 6 years and I wonder if he regrets his actions. I am harder to f...

Should I continue to date and build a relationship with someone newly divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3371 days ago

5 October 2015 (F) - I am dating someone who got out of a divorce about 5 months ago due to the wife cheating (more than once). Before his divorce, we were just friends for about 2 years. I am torn on going any further with this. We are not in any type of commited...

Dating a month, was I a rebound?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3371 days ago

5 October 2015 (F) - This post is going to be a bit long, apologies for that. My boyfriend and I were good and it's been just a month together. Out of the blue, he texted me this morning that "Don't mean to be hard on you but I am not sure about this relationship. I ...

I'm missing my ex although he was never the guy that would make me happy!?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3371 days ago

4 October 2015 (F) - I feel like my heart is falling apart. I broke up w/my ex a week ago. I was the one who ended it, I am extremely broken. I wanted so bad for the relationship to work. When I started having doubts I approached him in a mature manner and he accused me ...

My girlfriend and her ex are really close..I see him checking her out! How do I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3364 days ago

4 October 2015 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months now. From day one she has been extremely open about her relationship with her ex. They have a four year daughter together and they coparent . They both agreed when they split up that they wanted what was ...

Friends and family tell me to date the younger guy who's actively pursuing me, but I can't stop thinking about someone else!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3372 days ago

4 October 2015 (F) - Hello, I'm writing this because I need opinions of people that aren't my family/friends. Basically I was in a relationship for around 8 years, from the age of 14 to around 22. It ended because my life got busier and he'd moved away a few...

Why will my boyfriend not say anything bad about this one particular ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3371 days ago

4 October 2015 (F) - I have recently gained some weight and it's making me feel quite uncomfortable. My boyfriend always compliments me even when I look like a walking dead extra or my hairs a mess. Well he basically compliments me every time I see him. I asked him ...

What can I do? I no longer trust my ex. He's now posted naked pictures of me online and parts of our private conversations too

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3370 days ago

3 October 2015 (F) - I had a bad break up with my long term boyfriend and he decided to post a few naked pictures of myself that I've sent to him over the years online. He did this to 'get back at me' even though I did not do anything wrong. I'm very concerned as I n...

How do we handle gossipers? This is my first relationship since my marriage broken down.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3372 days ago

3 October 2015 (F) - I've recently started my first relationship since my marriage broke up and it's with a guy who I began working with last year. At the time I met him, my marriage was strong and then we started to fight more and more until I couldn't stand being in...

I Cheated on my boyfriend but now he's harassing me. How should I respond?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3351 days ago

3 October 2015 (F) - I know cheating is a horrible thing but I cheated on my boyfriend. He of course was very upset and broke up with me. Now he is harassing me and getting his friends to contact me and harass me. He put that I cheated on him on Facebook and also po...

Will it work if I get back with my soulmate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3375 days ago

1 October 2015 (F) - Hi everyone, I met with my ex for a few drinks on Sunday for the first time in 7 years since we split up. We were together for 6 years prior to splitting and it was my decision to end things as I just felt that we were at different points in o...