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writes:I know cheating is a horrible thing but I cheated on my boyfriend.He of course was very upset and broke up with me.Now he is harassing me and getting his friends to contact me and harass me. He put that I cheated on him on Facebook and also posts screenshots of some of out conversations so everyone knows. Everyone knows and has been harassing me and saying horrible things. His friends call and leave horrible messages on my phone from blocked numbers. I know what I did was wrong but I feel this is going too far. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2015): I would like to help. But I consider cheating so much worse than harassment that its hard to think of what to say.
Save the harassment data so you can prove what is going on later if you need to. You never know if you might want the proof again years later, long after you think this is over.
If you are really separated from this guy and out of each other's lives then he should tire of it soon enough. You responding to it will only encourage him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2015): First print out anything that he has posted about you before he deletes it.Second save every and I mean every nasty message you get on your phone because of him.Does not matter if it is not him save them.Now then here is what you do with all that stuff...1.call the police and file a report on him for harassment.2.File a restraining order against him for harassment and for him getting others to harass you.3.Every time he breaks this order or has someone else break it you report it so he can be arrested.Everytime.4.Take him to civil court and sue him for money damages due you because of all this distress he is causeing you by his harassing you and by his getting others to harass you.Be glad you are not with him anymore for his abuse is showing now and just think how bad it might have gotten in the future.And you are for sure correct in one thing..he took this too far and now it is time for you to be strong and not take it anymore.Good Luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 October 2015):
 Get a new phone number, contact FB and ask them to take the screenshots down as it IS harassment. Set your own page to friends only, so IF you down the line met a new guy they can't harass him too.
Delete him so you can't see if he starts posting new stuff and honestly? If you aren't with him any more whatever he does is irrelevant.
I know when my husband was deployed to Afghanistan the soldiers made a "wall of shame" with a picture of the cheating GF/Wife/BF/husband - and often with a photocopy of the "confessions". He said the wall was EXTENSIVE and in detail. What these guys DIDN'T do was hang the soldiers who cheated on their spouses/GF/BF with other soldiers so it seemed pretty one way.
Own your actions, but don't take crap from your ex either.
If he is NOT your ex yet - dump him.
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