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writes:Hi, well I met this girl two times, we are going out again, , I wonder when should I let her know, I have a woman roommate, but the thing, about it is, my room mate is my ex wife, we have teenager, I have custody, we are just friends, you see she is in bad shape, I want my daughter, to see her mom as much as she can before she dies, plus she pays to live here, an she is on dialises, three times a week, I really like this new girl, she is my age, fifty nine, how do I tell her about this, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2015): Hi, every body, she tex me back, today, wants to see me again, thanks for the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2015): Well, I told her last night, we had a great time, but now, she has to think about, it, I didn't try to have sex, with her again, I want to wait for the right time, I really like her, thanks for writing to me, I hope she still wants to see me, cause I think am falling in love with her
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 October 2015):
 Yep, tell her the truth.
And IF she is OK with it and you two start to date seriously -LET her met your wife, and your wife met her. That way there can be no mistake as to why you are doing what you are doing.
I will say this though, there are plenty of women who not matter how noble a cause or reason as to why you have your ex-wife living with you, will NOT want to date you. I mean where would a new woman fit into the picture? Would he LITERALLY have to wait for your ex-wife to date to live with you? That would be a horrible notion for most women.
But you CAN NOT hide the truth in order to get a woman to date you, and you CERTAINLY should not lie about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2015): Tell her the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. You have to gain trust in order to get someone to care about you. If she isn't up for your situation; she has a right to know, and the right not to accept it.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (24 October 2015):
This is a complicated situation but I think you have to explain it to the new girl exactly as it is. I understand from what you’re saying, that you and your ex-wife have remained on good terms and, given that she is seriously ill, she lives with you and this is a choice you have made for the sake of your daughter. I think you should explain to the girl that you would like to tell her about your current circumstances in order to be completely honest with her from the start. Also explain that you’ve made this choice for your daughter and how much you like her and that you want to continue to see her. It’ll be a big thing to get her head around but if she’s the right woman for you, she’ll need to be able to. The fact of the matter is that she’ll respect you much less if she finds out some other way that you still live with your ex-wife. At least if you tell her, it’ll show you have nothing to hide. I hope it works out for everyone.
I wish you all the very best.
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