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Archived questions from: May, 2016 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

I'm turned on by a fantasy I'm sure my wife's interest in would be zero!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3087 days ago

31 May 2016 (M) - Hi All. I am a very happily married man and my sex life with my wife is fantastic. However, I am hugely turned on by the thought of a threesome between my wife and a shemale. I am almost certain that my wife's interest in this is pretty much zero. ...

What can I do? My ex ghosted me. Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

30 May 2016 (F) - My ex-boyfriend whom I've been sleeping with, ghosted me for someone else a month ago. I found this out from mutual friends. I feel absolutely horrible. I feel strung along, used, worthless, hopeless, "not good enough".. Its pretty pathetic. why no...

How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3074 days ago

30 May 2016 (F) - Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...

Stuck in a terrible marriage. Do I stay or leave?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

29 May 2016 (F) - I am having trouble deciding whether to leave my marriage. I wonder how it all looks from the outside. We met as coworkers during a hard time in my life and slept together even though I made it clear I did not want that type of relationship. Ev...

Feeling obsessed and desperate. Who really is my baby's Daddy?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

29 May 2016 (F) - Hello there, I am really hoping someone can help me here with some advise and no judgment. I am 31 years old and married for 5 years. My husband and I share a daughter that is 3 years old. Last year we are having a lot of trouble in our marriage ...

When my BF was younger, before he knew me, he slept with some women who, then, were in their 40s. Why didn't he tell me earlier? I'm disgusted and very upset

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3089 days ago

28 May 2016 (F) - My boyfriend is older than I am. It seems like he loves me very much but yesterday, I found out that he slept with a couple of some who were in their forties when he was about twenty years old ( he slept with them at different times). This really h...

Fantasizing about my husband's best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3090 days ago

28 May 2016 (F) - My husband is a fair amount older than me and has a lower sex drive. On top of this I am also sexually attracted to multiple people at the same time. My husband's best friend is single and has been on a dry spell for about 5 years and is very ...

I think I've found my soul mate too early

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3090 days ago

27 May 2016 (F) - I want experience in the world. I'm just turned 18 and have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend, the first boyfriend I ever had. He's had a couple of relationships before me and is now wanting to settle down and I don't know what to ...

My husband made a joke about me taking our mutual friend's virginity for his birthday. Should I?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3091 days ago

27 May 2016 (F) - Hi everyone. Me and my husband are both in our early 30's and have been married for 10 years. We have a mutual friend who is about the same age as us both and is still a virgin. Recently my husband made a joke about me taking his virginity for hi...

He ignores me and treats me like I don't exist ever since we had a one night stand. How can I better handle this rejection?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

26 May 2016 (F) - Hi there, I'm married with 10 childrens and had an affair with a man that has 4 Children. We go to the same church and that's where everything happened. He smiled at me all the time and then it ended up into a one night stand we met up and ha...

I feel as if I am just the girl he made pregnant. Does he really love me? I feel as if I'm second best

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3092 days ago

26 May 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years and together have two babies. We have 2 kids each to previous partners. All up we have 6 kids whom we raise together. He was with his ex for about 5 years. They were not married but were...

How can I ask my husband to consider an open marriage? Cheating has never been a part of our relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

26 May 2016 (F) - I’d like to discuss with my husband a possibility of an open marriage but don’t know how to do it. First of all he may think I literarily lost my mind. You see, I was always a good girl/woman, did what was expected of me, while my husband was free...

What should I do? Things don't feel right in our relationship. I still feel betrayed at times!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3093 days ago

25 May 2016 (F) - My husband and I are having a major problem and I come to you for help. We've been married almost 3 years, no children. He wanted to separate for a bit and so I agreed. I went to go stay at my dads. Out of hurt and anger I told him I would be filin...

I can't imagine breaking up with him, and I can't live with my married lover. How do I cope?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3093 days ago

24 May 2016 (F) - I have been having an affair with a married man for 3 years this June. He has told me he does not love me. But he loves having sex with me. The passion we share and the sex we have is out of this world. Even after 3 years, we continue to reac...

Do I love this girl?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3088 days ago

23 May 2016 (M) - Hi everyone, Basically I have a lot of friends who are in the mindset that they don't want a relationship. I feel as though I'm in that category as I never feel the desire that I actively want to seek a girlfriend and I also really like my f...

I am about to have sex with my new partner, and don't want to scare him off!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3094 days ago

23 May 2016 (F) - I've been seeing a great guy for some time now and we're about to start having sex. I'm in my late thirties (he's of my age), divorced after 15 years. Almost half of my marriage the sex was... well just going through the motions before becoming...

Uncles who lost your virginity at a later stage, how did you do it? Aunts what will really help me lose my virginity?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3094 days ago

21 May 2016 (M) - How do you shake off being a virgin? While I have kissed a couple girls and have been sexual with some, I feel down on myself for not having had intercourse. I've read articles on this site, other sites about not feeling bad about it but it ...

Does it feel different having another person touch you than when you're touching yourself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3095 days ago

21 May 2016 (F) - Does it feel different having another person touch you than when you're touching yourself? I guess I'm a little weird because I can only get off when I just get direct to the point. I've read that you should stroke yourself everywhere like your thi...

Will a new lover help fix my sexual issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3095 days ago

21 May 2016 (F) - Hello all, I'm looking for some advice regarding my sex life. I ended a 6 year relationship around a year and a half ago and in the time I've taken since then to get over it, I've realised just how damaging that past relationship was. He had ...

Stressed, tired and fearful he'll look elsewhere

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3095 days ago

21 May 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together five years and we bought a house together three months ago. I've been working full time and studying for the last ten months. I finish my study in two months. I've been really busy and stressed. I've put on 10 ...

Did he or did he not? I am 16, why did my BF lie about losing his virginity and then change his story?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3095 days ago

20 May 2016 (F) - So I have been with my boyfriend who I met at a concert for a month. We are both sixteen. We hadn't discussed sex at all until now. I was curious to know if he had sex before, but I wasn't bold enough to ask outright. So when we were finally talking ...

Married 4 years and still my husband only wants 'vanilla' sex. What can I do to ease him towards more and liven up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3096 days ago

20 May 2016 (F) - I have been married close to 4 years and have always wanted to explore intimately with my husband and he is aware of this desire but seems uninterested with anything beyond "vanilla" sex. Lately I feel incomplete longing for more from him, the desi...

How can I introduce the subject of more sexual exploration and trying new things, to see if she is interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3096 days ago

20 May 2016 (M) - Myself and partner are due to get wed next year !! Wooo - Hooo !!! We have always been an extremely sexually active couple... For all the ten years of our relationship. More recently my mind has been open to even more sexual endeavors! We have a...

Does he want a committed relationship? Or production of more children? Or the chance to meet me for sex to make babies? Confused by him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3099 days ago

19 May 2016 (F) - I am a muslim lady 30yrs of age. Recently got talking to an older guy of around 51 yrs.actually he is a family friend, got to know him the past 5 yrs but nothing was between us til recently, he started picking interest in me. Its now 6 months sin...

How can I deal with complex emotions and the feelings I have that my life will spiral out of control if I break up with her? Sexually she no longer appeals

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3099 days ago

18 May 2016 (M) - My question has so many angles I realy dont know how to sum it up. There are so many parts that need more explaining but I simply cant fit them all in. I will try to summarise. I am a 47 year old male. I come from a broken familly. I have bee...

Why are some people so critical of open relationships?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3097 days ago

18 May 2016 (F) - So I am letting my fiance have sex with another woman (who herself is in an open relationship) next week. They have already had a date and kissed etc. It's the first time he will have sex outside of our relationship. Rationally I am pretty ok wit...

Do I lose my virginity to the next girl that comes along or wait for someone I like? Should I pay for it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

18 May 2016 (M) - Do I lose my virginity to the next girl that comes along or wait for someone I like? Should I pay for it? It makes me feel really bad about myself. I have a lot going on but the fact I've never had intercourse alone makes me feel like less of a ...

I am happy she's happier but what's going on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

18 May 2016 (M) - I am 6 months in and my girlfriend always has had trouble sleeping, She goes to bed late and has been getting a little better going to bed at 11:00 or 12:00. All of a sudden she started going to bed at 10:00 or 10:30 and she says she's getting nine ...

My bf thinks I'm scared of sex because I'm still a virgin?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

17 May 2016 (F) - But the truth is...I am nervous about doing it with a real person. But I've also been using sex toys for over a year now. And some are bigger or the same size as my bf (I gave him handjobs so I know his size). To me the toys are really private so I ...

Too much of a good thing is still too much, how do I get her to understand?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3084 days ago

17 May 2016 (M) - OK my wife had a serious accident. And now we don't have interiors. She says it hurts her very bad She will give me blow jobs and I give her head Now my problem is she wants to do it all the time I mean 3 or 4 times a day I get up in the ...

He only sends me a text when he's horny. Is it time to show him the door?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3101 days ago

16 May 2016 (F) - me and my boyfriend have dated over 7-8 months now. Over the past 2 months it's so happening that he only texts me when he's horny.. Otherwise he never texts me nor speaks to me. so like i'm really confused. should i continue my relationship...

He sent a false rumor around that I sucked him off. (I'm 14) Yet I still think he is gorgeous. I need your help, please? What to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

15 May 2016 (F) - Hey , This is kinda embarresing but there's this guy who I've liked for YEARS now literally and he knows that I've liked him for that long. I think about him ALL the time. He makes me so nervous and everyone else blurs and I only see him. But he's...

Did I over-react to his initial rejection ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3101 days ago

15 May 2016 (F) - Hi! So my husband and I went to different cities post marriage because of work and met recently after a gap of six long months. In order to spice things up I dressed up in a nice lingerie and surprised him. In his response he kissed me, then pus...

Less sex than before. Yet this extreme reaction to my complaint? What should I do now ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3102 days ago

15 May 2016 (F) - I been with my boyfriend for 10 years over the past year our sex has dropped down to 2-3 times a month. He thinks he has control over when we do have sex of weather we have it or not. Last week I tried getting him to have sex on two nights back to ...

The spark has gone. If we do split up then how will that affect our 4 year old daughter?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3102 days ago

14 May 2016 (M) - Since the birth of our daughter, 4 years ago, my partner and I have drifted apart, we still enjoy one another's company and get along but there is no spark between us. Sex and even intimacy is non existent. We both agree that we love each other but ...

Why am I selfish because I want romance but no sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

14 May 2016 (F) - I think I am asexual. Now I had sex before and I didn't like it. But that's the problem, I hear "you did it before so you must've liked it" and "you just weren't w the right person" no. I just really hate sex and oral. But I like dating and romance. ...

Why do intense passionate affairs always come to an end?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

14 May 2016 (F) - I'm a married woman whos been having an affair with a single man for about two years now...I know its wrong, but he's so good looking, interesting, kind, and really seems to care about what I have to say...And the sex is Amazing.....my best friend ...

How do I know if my boyfriend fantasized about this other woman when we had sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

12 May 2016 (F) - I have what might seem like a weird question. Is it normal for your boyfriend or partner to fantasize about another woman/person while having sex with you? Do people do this sometimes? Or is it just not ever spoken about? I am asking bec...

We hardly have sex and I think he's looking at porn! Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3105 days ago

12 May 2016 (F) - A few months back I caught my husband looking at porn on his tablet. he was also working away from home during the week and weekend all his underwear has cum stains in. we had lots of arguments bout this. now he is back home and for a long time his ...

Can I get over my insecurity and jealousy in this situation? My Gf had sex with someone else shortly before we started dating.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3092 days ago

11 May 2016 (M) - So this is my story, I don't know if I overreact or not. I chatted up this girl in late November last year through a dating app. We talked a bit but there was nothing going on, she said she was busy, working on a project day and night and had to...

What happened to 'live and let live' ? Why is 'slut shaming' and misogyny becoming prevalent in society today?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3105 days ago

10 May 2016 (F) - Maybe some of you remember a book called " Backlash " by Pulitzer winner Susan Faludi, in which she argued for the existence of a media driven " backlash " aimed to invalidate the feminist progresses of the 70's. Now, I don't know if Faludi w...

Can my cheating be condoned? Should I feel guilt?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

10 May 2016 (F) - Here is my current situation... I am a married 35 year old with 2 kids and I am currently cheating happily. I know how it sounds but hear me out. I have been in my relationship with my husband for 12 years. I like to think we are good parents, we...

Rekindling the spark in a relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

10 May 2016 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are in a pretty nice and cordial relationship. It has been a long time that we have been together. We both are working and successful. I was a complete nerd throughout my student life and never been in a serious relationship ...

Worried I don't care who I go with

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3108 days ago

10 May 2016 (M) - Okay. So this might be really strange because I don't even understand this. But im confused about my sexual orientation. Ever since I was young I feel like I was more sexualy charged then my peers. Since 11 I have been masturbating 2-3 times a ...

Should I leave my wife because of her fixation on finding “the big one”?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

9 May 2016 (M) - My wife is totally ignorant to me on occasssion. Thoughtless or worse. She cheated 4 years ago looking for 'the big one' as I caught her when she left FB open. It was a coworker and the brief fling happened after she lost her job. Turns out he w...

I need to tell him I faked my pleasure!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

9 May 2016 (F) - So this is slightly embarrassing, hence why I’m staying anonymous. Basically I lied to my boyfriend about liking anal sex and he now wants to make it a regular thing. Do I tell him the truth that I was ‘faking it?’ This all happened last we...

I cheated and now I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Troubled and at the crossroads. Abort or stay pregnant?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3110 days ago

8 May 2016 (F) - I am 21, have a 3 year old girl and have been with the father for almost 5 years. We moved together 7 months ago to a new house with a roomate who is close friends of us, (used to live at parents home, never had a stable relationship, always c...

I love him but he doesn't speak English well and the sex is disappointing!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3110 days ago

7 May 2016 (F) - Hi Agony Aunts, I'm having a difficult time at the moment. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now - he's so nice, truly loves me and never does me wrong. He's honestly a gentleman and I do love him. However, we don't even speak the sam...

Can I possibly work things out with my guy? Or am I with the wrong guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3111 days ago

6 May 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid! I am currently in a relationship with my guy for 4 years and from the beginning of the relationship I was not sure if he's the guy for me but I ignored the feeling cause I'm not a risk taker and was scared to be alone. Now we have come...

She’s annoyed that my parents won’t allow us to spend the night in the same bed! What should I say to her?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3113 days ago

5 May 2016 (M) - Hello, I've been seeing this girl for around 1 month and a half. We are both 19 and Last week i stayed over at hers and everything is fine and we stayed in her room in her bed. She is due to come over and stay at mine but she will be sleeping...