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anonymous
writes:Okay. So this might be really strange because I don't even understand this. But im confused about my sexual orientation.Ever since I was young I feel like I was more sexualy charged then my peers. Since 11 I have been masturbating 2-3 times a day. I almost never miss this cycle. Even when I have been holding long term relationships I would still make time to masturbate and on top of that be sexually active with my partners 1-2 a day. Now for 20 years all I would ever think about is females, but slowly I started fantasies about trans-gender. Then that turned into men, all along I would still think about women.. one day my curiosity got the better of me and I decided to engage in sexual intercourse with a man. And I was amazed I didn't feel any different. I didn't have a life changing moment. To be honest I didn't feel any difference from having sex with male or female. That's when it finally hit me! I'm Honestly not attracted to either male or female honestly the only thing I care about is me getting off! I don't care gender, age, race. As long as I get off I'm okay with whatever. It's like my brain can not tell the two genders apart. And I dont feel like this is a bad thing. Sure I guess its kinda selfish of me But everyone is entitled to there own desires. Now on a emotional stand point. I can only really connect with females. Like I have my best buddies that are males but I can only really get feelings for females? Except on a sexual level!! When it comes to sex I Honestly just dont care. I just want it! Now I want to tell my folks about this but I dont know how? Its not that im afraid, its honestly i'm just so ignorant of this new found world I found my self living in that I won't have any answers for all the questions that they WILL HAVE. Like what does society label people like me? Because i'm not straight, gay or bi. Is there other people like me? Is there a way I can start trying to be sexually attracted to anyone? Will I only forever have just have a desire to get my self pleased? Am I just a really selfish person? Any advice will help just please non of this (Dont label yourself. YOU'RE YOU) Im sorry but this world is way too black and white for that gary area nonsense Thank you guys again Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 May 2016):
 Your sexual orientation is pansexual, gender blind, non cisgender. Your romantic orientation is women. Is there one term for that? I don't think so. You are not selfish because sex is consensual, and you both get pleasure. It will only be selfish if a guy falls in love with you and you don't feel for him while still using him for sex by stringing him along.
Do you worry you are selfish because you are not thinking about marriage, babies and domestication? Well you are in the majority of young guys who do not want these things.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 May 2016):
 Sounds to me like you are pansexual meaning you are open to any and all experiences... and that's fine.
When you meet someone you care deeply about and find that you want THEM to be pleased...then you know you have a partner to work with and see if you can make a life together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2016): Dear fancy this is original author. I am going to have to disagree with you on being Asexual. As an asexual person has a lack or no desire for any sexual pleasures.. I my self am very very sexual. But only because I want to be pleased. I have to attraction towards any gender just a attraction to being pleasured.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 May 2016):
 Sound like you are Asexual. Im no expert on the topic. Have a google.
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