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41-50,
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writes:Myself and partner are due to get wed next year !! Wooo - Hooo !!! We have always been an extremely sexually active couple... For all the ten years of our relationship. More recently my mind has been open to even more sexual endeavors! We have always been open minded to sexual exploration.. How ever i'm unsure now how to let her know my desires. almost shy, not ashamed towards them... From bdsm threesomes and much more .... I guess it's experiences i wish to have and unsure on how to approach the given subjects with her. I do and always have loved her so so much and at the same don't want to upset her any ideas ? Tips ? Pointers or any at all feed back is more than welcome here !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2016): I will be honest.
It doesn't sound like you are ready for marriage.
Maybe put it off for a while.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 May 2016):
 Yep, do it BEFORE marriage.
I think bringing up 3-somes can be the death of a relationship, for the reason that MOST people don't REALLY want a 3rd person in their "bed room endeavors".
Don't overwhelm her with idea, maybe ask her what fantasies SHE has so it can be an exchange, not just what YOU want.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 May 2016):
 yes, do bring it up before you marry, in case your sexual ideas are extreme and out of her comfort zone. Avoid this becoming something that will cause frustration.
Other than that, you simply need to talk to her. We don't know her, so can't possibly suggest good ways on bringing it up with her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 May 2016):
 I suggest that you be sure to bring up this subject BEFORE you and she marry. That way, the two of you can discuss just what you (both) think it "means" to be married....
After all.... you've described activities that are commonly detrimental - if not fatal - to marriages.... so, the two of you should discuss them before you are entwined such that it is difficult (and, maybe, expensive) to part ways...
Good luck..
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