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Archived questions from: September, 2015 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

The man that I am dating doesn't know how to tell his lady friend about me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

28 September 2015 (F) - Dear aunties and uncles I posted on here in June about a man I have been seeing: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-you-think-it-is-worth-me-continuing.html I am 55 and 4 months ago I met a man who is 60. 8 months before we met he had me...

Is Using A Dildo If You're A Virgin Safe?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

28 September 2015 (F) - I'm saving it for the right guy. Anyway, I want something "up there" but I'm pretty sure I haven't lost my hymen as I've barely even fingered myself and I feel really tight because I am petite. I can get myself to orgasm without penetration ...

I'm incredibly attracted to him but not ready to have sex after only one month and 4 dates!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3333 days ago

28 September 2015 (F) - I have been dating a guy for almost a month. We met on a popular dating app and hit it off immediately on our first date. We talked for hours and ended up having to be told to leave the restaurant because they were closing. He took me out for dinner ...

Is it weird that I'm not interested in dating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3333 days ago

27 September 2015 (F) - I guess I don't quite know how to put this in the form of a question. Basically I'm just curious if it's really so bad to not have an interest in dating? I have told myself that I'm most likely asexual although I'm attracted to men, j...

I feel like he just charmed me to get me to the bed and now that it's over, he's withdrawing himself. I feel disrespected, humiliated, hurt and betrayed.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

27 September 2015 (F) - I've been dating this guy for the past three weeks. He seemed to be a nice, caring and romantic person who made me feel special and showered me with attention. Now, we've entered a relationship since the last 15 days (the guy himself brought this ...

Confused by one night stand. Was I too harsh on him?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 3331 days ago

26 September 2015 (F) - Dear all. Please can you throw some light on this. Thanks. I have recently come out of a long abusive relationship and feel happier than ever. I've been out partying and dating and having a great time. Anyway, last weekend I met a guy I was stro...

How am I supposed to continue into the future with someone as spiteful as she has been towards me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3326 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - I've been dating this girl on and off for a little over three years and I just recently found out that whilst we weren't together for a short period of time, she had sex with a guy that was clearly my enemy, but she didn't come clean about it until ...

How long to wait to have sex with a new partner? Do I have to tell him how bad my sexual experience was with my first boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3337 days ago

24 September 2015 (F) - I'm dating a guy who is 7 yrs older than I am which is fine as I really like him, however I'm the younger one at aged 22 years. We haven't spoken about our past yet with regards to my past boyfriends. I had a really bad time with my first boyfrie...

How do I convince her to let me give her pleasure in this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - For some reason my wife feels uncomfortable about me going down on her. We've done it before (only for a few minutes each time) and I know she loves it. I'd like to spend more time on her but she tries to avoid it. Giving her pleasure is a bi...

Is it wrong? Fling with Ex girlfriend's mum and she wants more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - I recently had a fling with my ex-girlfriends' Mum and she wants to see me on a regular basis. Is it wrong? We're both single... I'm 24 and she's 41 and divorced. I went out with my ex-girlfriend for just over a year and during that time I a...

Should I have a baby with him? He's married

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3334 days ago

23 September 2015 (F) - I am a 38 year old lady who has been in an unhappy long distance relationship in another city(away from home) for 7years with no assurance from my man that he will marry me any time soon. At the beginning of this year i met a guy same age as me wh...

He talks about getting me pregnant, but is it just all talk?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

23 September 2015 (F) - Hi,(long story) im 23 and my guy is 19 yrs older. He uses the pull-out method. A few times he's came inside me. He askes about when im gonna have his baby. He says i hope you're ready to have a baby. But sometimes he says you better not get preg...

Is it a lost cause to be looking for a man who, within a relationship, does not lust after other women ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

23 September 2015 (F) - I'm growing increasingly tired of men thinking they can lust after other women with no consequences. Like us ladies don't notice or we are just supposed to accept it as "men being men". Are there any men out there who genuinely disagree with looking ...

Why might a guy take a long time to orgasm?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3338 days ago

22 September 2015 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles. This question feels quite weird because I've never really heard it before. I'm used to hearing about men who come too quickly, but not those who take a very very long time. I slept with a new guy for the first time last night. H...

Should I be worried if I keep on finding gay porn on my Bf's phone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

22 September 2015 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend 2 years, living together 1 year. I recently for the first time, checked his phone out of curiosity because I know he watches porn and was getting upset by the lack of sex we were having so decided to check it out... ...

When did dating become so confusing? Do I cut him off or give him a chance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3339 days ago

22 September 2015 (F) - I have known this man for 2 yrs, we were friends first. We dating a bit last year and were physical when were seeing each other. All was going well and then he disappeared on me. We kept in touch but it looked like he was dating other peop...

Should it head towards 'more than friends with benefits'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3338 days ago

21 September 2015 (F) - I have dated this guy long ago when I was 17 and he was 19. We were together for 3 months. By nature he is very secretive! and so no one among our common friends knew about us. Someday he gets a girl to the same group and introduces her as his ...

How do I make him feel comfortable with me in that department without being pushy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

21 September 2015 (F) - Hi I really need help. My husband and I broke up a few years ago. He now wants to give it a go at fixing things. He wants us to be a family. I've always wanted this and we have given it a go before but he changed his mind and left. Now he said he ...

Desires versus beliefs, what are my options?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3325 days ago

21 September 2015 (M) - I am in love with several different ladies. I want to make love to all of them. Yet I am a strict Christian, and have not acted on my desires, yet it is getting harder not to. What should I do....

Why do guys give the promiscuous flirty girls so much attention?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3341 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...

Should my Gf and I wait until we are married before we have sex? Don't want any unplanned pregnancy or any STD

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3338 days ago

20 September 2015 (M) - Hi, Im a 22yr old guy, looking for answers whether should I wait until marriage to have sex. Well, my 21yr old girlfriend and I are together for 3yrs already. We always maintained a platonic relationship until recently, where we had become more ...

He's told me that I'm cute during the many times we chatted online. But was he just more interested in sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3341 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Hey everyone so im so confused about a guy that I've been talking to. We talked everyday for a week mostly snspchatting and messaging. We hung out last Friday and he was super nice, we talked about really deep stuff. And then we hugged for like 10 ...

Porn is ruining our relationship. When we do have sex he cannot climax. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3342 days ago

19 September 2015 (F) - Porn is ruining our relationship My problem is lack of sex. I crave sex all the time and so does my partner however he now has a smart phone with access to the internet. Im lucky if I get it once a month. Every morning he goes to the bathr...

How do I respond to my ex's comments about our past sexual relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3342 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - I am single and in my 40's and in contact with an ex. We were talking about our very brief relationship from years ago and I said to him that I enjoyed our brief relationship all those years ago. He replied that we had fun and that we had some ...

I found out my boyfriend lied and cheated. Do I take him back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3343 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - Hey all, So I have asked questions before on this board and it really helped. Please help! I have been living with my boyfriend for about 4 years. Things are tough because we both work medical and emergency services which means our schedul...

How can I explain to my guy in a good way what I want sexually?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - Hi aunties and uncles, I know this is silly but I need to figure out a way to explain to my new partner how unsatisfactory sex with him is. everything is in shambles, we being dating for 3 months and have only had sexual intercourse 2 times so far a...

No contact with each other can't take about sex only one position for sex I don't know what to do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3341 days ago

17 September 2015 (M) - I'm married for 37 yrs.wonderful wife but things aren't perfect.she's just gone through menopause.we both have physical problems but here's the question? She seems she doesn't care about sex no more.I've tried to be a good husband I've worked hard ...

Did I just lose my virginity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - hi, I'm 18 yrs old and I fingered myself then it just started bleeding Does it mean that I have lost my virginity?? Will it bleed when i have actual sex?...

Was he just frustrated sexually and I was just there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - Hello, I really need some help. I'm 16 and I recently made a terrible mistake. I needed help with a college project so asked a guy I knew (my dads friends son) to help as he had already done a similar thing. He's 18 and has a girlfriend of 14 ...

I don't like myself naked and seem to have issues with sex. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - Hi all I am a 16 yo female. I'm looking for some help. Recently all my friends have been losing their virginity and I'm jealous, not because they are having sex, but because they are confident enough to allow another person to see them naked. I ...

I'm wondering why it is so hard for me to enjoy an orgasm?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3338 days ago

17 September 2015 (?) - I apologize if this is TMI. I have been dating a wonderful man for several months now. I lost my virginity to him (and I was fairly old to be losing my virginity). I grew up with a significant amount of sexual shame and guilt. I masturbated mayb...

Am I having a mental block that I am unable to climax with a guy? Even though I enjoy giving pleasure to a guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3344 days ago

17 September 2015 (M) - Bi sexual I have been straight and married for some 40 years now, but since now ex-wife said NO MORE SEX, I have since have had oral sex with a few men which I have really enjoyed both receiving and giving... My partners say I'm very good, and ha...

Any ideas on how to liven up the sex life with my older boyfriend? He says he is far too old for sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3345 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - I am 45 and my boyfriend is 57 and been with him 4 months and everything at first was fine until he kept on saying that he is too old for this too old for that and sex is soo boring that I am not surprised that I have not fallen asleep during it any ...

S it normal that he gets bored so fast? I'v reached my limit on the blowjob acting.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3346 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - Hi Dearcupid community! :) I've been dating my boyfriend for less than a year. He was the first person I ever gave a blowjob to, so I learned everything from him or the internet and after a few weeks of "practice" I became able to make him ...

I consider myself a straight male, but I have this urge to be sexual with a man, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3325 days ago

14 September 2015 (M) - I consider myself a straight male, had a few girlfriends and only find women attractive and view as partners. But I have this urge to be sexual with a man, to be as I know it as a bottom, there's just something that really excites me, I don't want ...

Was this girl a virgin?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3345 days ago

14 September 2015 (M) - Was this girl a virgin? This may seem like an odd question, but I assure you that the answer is important to me (I won’t get into the reasons why it is important). I have my opinion of the answer, but I’m “just a guy”. I would be very grateful fo...

How do I speed things up sexually with my girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3347 days ago

13 September 2015 (M) - I have a problem on my hands. A bi dude asked me if I wanted him to suck my dick. I replied I'm not sure, because I am already dating a girl. Honestly, I want my first sexual experience to be with a girl, but my girlfriend takes things slow,and were ...

My husband really wants oral sex but I have a terrible gag reflex and just can't do it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3347 days ago

13 September 2015 (F) - My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 6. This man is the love of my life and I would, will, am willing, and want to do everything I possibly can to make him happy and to fulfill all his needs, wants, and dreams. I've worked ...

How do I ask my guy for oral sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3347 days ago

13 September 2015 (F) - Hi. So my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 22. Been with my boyfriend for a year now, but I'm starting to have mixed emotions all because....my boyfriend hasnt gone "down" on me for the year we have been together, and I don't know how to ask him, how to ...

Technique? I prefer being on top just before I orgasm. My new guy objects

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

12 September 2015 (F) - Never thought I was bad at being on top (straight female, early 30s), as I've had my share of experience with it, and have definitely had some fun with it (such as a past partner and I cumming at the same time while I've been on top). I'm with ...

What was he really asking me? Did I misread him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3349 days ago

12 September 2015 (F) - Ok, this may be a dumb question. I'm European so it may be a cultural thing but I wanted to ask here. I've been seeing this guy, last night was the 2nd time we had sex. We did a LOT of foreplay which I'm almost not used to. He loves to kiss an...

Is there a way to know for sure when a girl has an orgasm?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

12 September 2015 (M) - I would like to know if it’s posible to tell when a girl has had an orgasm and how noticable it is. I’ve heard that lots of women use to fake orgasms, and I find it embarrassing to ask if they had one. I don’t have problems with mine, it’s simple to ...

Is it wrong to want more experience?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

11 September 2015 (F) - Is it wrong to want more experience? Hi. I am Amy and I am 20 years old. I have been with by bf Ken for about 8 months and we have been having sex for about 6 months. Ken is the first adult man I have ever had sex with. He is 25 and has had othe...

Did losing my virginity so late in life mess me up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

11 September 2015 (M) - LOSING MY VIRGINITY I was 38 when I lost my virginity but I always wanted to lose it sooner. I was very shy and never met anyone that could help me lose it, as one would need another person to accomplish this. Ever since I was about 13, I got ...

He said the only thing that works for him is porn and now I don't want to have sex with him either! Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3334 days ago

10 September 2015 (F) - My boyfriend and I(both 22) started dating a year ago. I think that we both have a rather high sex drive and at the beginning sex was great. Unfortunately we had to go LDR for a few months and he started using antidepressant medication. W...

Porn and sex, why doesn't he want to touch me or do anything with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3352 days ago

9 September 2015 (F) - My boyfriend has been watching porn since 13 all the way to 23. We started dating and he stopped shortly after. Our sex life is terrible still. When we first started dating he couldn't get off, it was hard to get him aroused then he lost it. He ...

How do I stop this? LDR and uncomfortable with his request.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3352 days ago

8 September 2015 (F) - Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. Since we graduated from college, we went back to our home country and we are currently having long distance relationship now since he's from another state in the country. Recently, he's ...

What's the the right form of contraception for us?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

7 September 2015 (F) - Hi there, Me and my fiance are struggling a bit to find the right form of contraception! We've been together for four years and for about three of those we've been using the withdrawal method. We've never really been too worried about preg...

How do I approach the subject of contraception with my protective mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

5 September 2015 (F) - I'm a seventeen year old girl, from Ireland. I've been in a new relationship for a few months now but we've been taking it slow. I've lost my virginity already (to a different guy, but it was only one time) although this is like starting all over ...

We've been dating for 2 years but g/f has never touched my penis

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3349 days ago

5 September 2015 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for two years and we live together, everything is perfect BUT in all this time she won't touch my penis. We have sex three times a week and will let me touch her etc (not allowed to go down on her) . I have spoke to ...