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writes:Hi Dearcupid community! :)I've been dating my boyfriend for less than a year.He was the first person I ever gave a blowjob to, so I learned everything from him or the internet and after a few weeks of "practice" I became able to make him cum.I would give him several blowjobs a day because both of us really enjoyed it. I honestly loved giving him heads.I've now become better at bj but he is asking for more. I have reached my limit: I think that i've covered at least all the basics but I'm not really comfortable with faking excessive enthusiasm, showing my tongue and some other things.I'm trying my best though. I've become pretty good at deep throating and I really hope that someday I'll be able to do all the other things, but right now, to me it all feels like acting/fake. And I know that even if I incorporate that into the bj, he'll get bored after a few days or weeks and he will ask for even more.What also broke my motivation/confidence is that he told me a few times I don't look really enthusiastic or that he is bored and needs his porn(well, this happens quite frequently now). Or that he is not turned on... Is it normal that he gets bored so fast?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot! You got some really good points and it cheered me up :)
Now I know that I'm not being super selfish.
And I'm ready to try to solve this situation because, despite that, I really want this relationship to work...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2015): sounds like he's using you a bit but with a girlfriend so willing to please he's going to try anything to get more and porn is his backup excuse.Ditch him and get a more loving partner and watch your ex weep at loosing you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 September 2015):
 It feels like acting, except that you are not paid like a porn actress. You think those actresses enjoy doing it day in and day out? Take away their paycheque, and no girls would be doing it. Why don't you tell him to be a porn star so he can get all the enthusiasm he wants? I am sure he watched enough porn to do a good performance himself. Do you know that porn clips are only good for one watch and then the excitement goes way down a second time? I am afraid this is how he is with women. Sex acts are basically the same thing over and over and what makes it exciting is the variety of women, with different themes. A guy with porn addiction has no place in relationships. He does not have a right to ask girlfriend to supply enough stimulation that he's used to. People with addictions can not love, because their priority is their own happiness but never yours. If his motivation for relationships is sex but not loving you, then after he gets what he wants there is nothing left since the motivation to make you happy was never there to begin with.
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