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writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. Since we graduated from college, we went back to our home country and we are currently having long distance relationship now since he's from another state in the country. Recently, he's been complaining to me that he's desperate to have sex with me and asked me to take pictures of my undies/vagina and send to him via whatsapp. During our college days, he wouldn't ask such a thing since we are sexually active. Ever since we got into a long distance, he's been pressuring me with all this. I don't know if it's right to do it or not because he's my boyfriend and we've been together for so long. I need a little help here. Hope to hear from you guys soon. Thank you for reading!Have a wonderful day
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (9 September 2015):
The question you have to ask yourself is this: would you ever be happy for an intimate photograph of you to be the property of some-one else who will have all the rights to do what they like with it? It’s a huge risk, as is distributing it over the internet. A simple rule with the internet: if you don’t want a wide audience to see it, don’t put it out there. I think that you should tell him that you’re not comfortable doing it, and whilst you’re away he’ll just have to use his imagination. It’s served men and women separated by distance well enough for many years.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2015): Follow your gut on it. You may not want to send very private pictures of yourself over the internet. A little over a year ago an acquaintance met a guy, and they dated on and off for several months. They decided to commit and she had to move to Washington,DC; where she was attending grad-school for her PhD.
While she was away, she was sending this guy very provocative and revealing pictures of her lovely body. She didn't put her face in the pictures; but she has a very distinctive tattoo that she forgot about. When she returned on a holiday visit; she found out he was dating another woman. So she broke it off immediately, and refused all his calls and contacts. Well, he didn't take it very well. He showed those private pictures to other guys and put them on the internet. One of his buddy's was very upset he did that and told her. She found them. She attends a very prestigious university. Need I tell you anymore about this?
If you can't visit him enough, let him come to you. Maybe meet each other halfway. It's far too risky sending pictures of your private parts if you have distinguishable
birthmarks, dimples, navel, or some other identifiable attribute that people have seen and will know it is you.
Maybe he is trying to tell you he can't hold on to this LDR any longer. Maybe you need to consider that, before you go and send pictures you can't take back! Nor do you know who may find them or with whom they may be shared! Your number can be traced back in his phone. If he gets them on a tablet or iPad; and leaves it lying around, his friends can rummage through his private emails and messages.
I hope there are readers out there who will give their opinions and share their experiences. Judge by the number of positive and negative responses.
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